Women should not be soft hearted when choosing divorce

If women face irreconcilable conflicts or injuries in marriage for a long time, they do not need to compromise due to emotional ties when choosing divorce. Divorce decisions need to be based on rational evaluation, including multi-dimensional considerations such as the possibility of relationship repair, personal physical and mental health, and children's interests. If there is long-term cold violence, physical conflict, value opposition, or serious trust crisis in the marital relationship, continuing to maintain it may exacerbate psychological trauma. Some women, due to concerns about social evaluation, economic dependence, or child rearing issues, attempt to achieve surface harmony through patience, but suppressing their true needs may lead to psychological problems such as depression and anxiety. At the legal level, China's Marriage Law clearly grants citizens the right to divorce freedom, and in the event of domestic violence, they can apply for a personal safety protection order. There are corresponding protection clauses for property division and child custody. In rare cases, marital crises arise from temporary conflicts or communication barriers. When both parties have a common willingness to improve and have the conditions for professional mediation, intervention measures such as marriage counseling can be attempted. But if the other party continues to refuse to change or has serious problems such as addictive behavior and mental abuse, delaying divorce may worsen the situation. From the perspective of children's psychological development, children who have lived in conflict families for a long time are more likely to experience emotional disorders than those who have experienced proper divorce.

It is recommended that women make sufficient preparations before divorce, including collecting evidence, consulting professional lawyers, planning for independent living, and seeking the help of psychological counselors when necessary to handle emotional disputes. After divorce, one can rebuild their life by establishing a social support network, cultivating interests and hobbies, and making career plans to avoid excessive self blame or external pressure that denies self-worth. Child rearing should follow the principle of maximizing the interests of the child, maintain necessary communication and cooperation with the previous partner, and reduce the impact of changes in family structure on the child.