Why do "DINKs" regret becoming "white DINKs" after marriage? Will there be more and more DINKs

The group that gives up DINK and chooses to have children after marriage is called Bai Ding, and this phenomenon is related to factors such as changes in personal values, family pressure, and socio-cultural influences. The number of DINK families may continue to increase, but the situation of regretting childbirth will also exist for a long time. The phenomenon of choosing DINK after marriage and then regretting it often stems from multiple psychological factors. Some couples pursue career development or personal freedom when they are young, and as they grow older, they develop a desire to have children. This physiological clock drive is particularly evident in women after the age of 35. The influence of traditional family values cannot be ignored, and the continuous pressure exerted by elders to pass on the family line may lead to compromise, especially in areas with strong Chinese clan culture. The dynamic changes in marital relationships are also important factors. When the emotional connection between spouses weakens, childbirth may be used as a means to save the marriage. Changes in the social environment also play a role, as improvements in economic conditions or herd mentality arising from peers giving birth can prompt reconsideration of fertility decisions. Some couples have changed their minds due to unintended pregnancies and have chosen the latter as a moral choice between abortion and childbirth. The group that adheres to the DINK philosophy is indeed showing a growing trend. The improvement of modern education level has enabled more people to plan their children rationally, and the high cost of raising children in big cities has deterred young people. The strengthening of women's career development demands has weakened traditional maternal identity, and a sound elderly care system has also alleviated the anxiety of raising children to support the elderly. The increase in social inclusiveness has reduced the criticism faced by DINKs, and the popularization of diverse values has made non-traditional family models more easily accepted. However, it should be noted that the proportion of people who truly adhere to lifelong DINK is still lower than expected. Surveys show that about 30% of couples who claim to be DINKs will eventually choose to have children. This repetition reflects both cognitive changes in individual life stages and the complexity and reversibility of reproductive decision-making. Whether choosing DINK or becoming a Bai Ding, it requires full communication of the true intentions of both husband and wife. It is recommended to conduct regular assessments of fertility intentions, but avoid making hasty decisions due to external pressure. Understand the lifestyle changes brought about by childbirth and plan ahead for potential challenges. For couples who are hesitant, they can seek professional psychological counseling to help clarify their core needs. Society should respect the choices of different family forms and create an inclusive environment for both the DINK and Baiding ethnic groups. It is important to recognize that reproductive decisions may be adjusted based on life experiences, leaving room for flexibility is more in line with human needs than insisting on absolute commitments.