Why did the 'DINK tribe' retract after marriage and become the 'Bai Ding' to oppose the DINK tribe

The group that gives up DINK and chooses to have children after marriage is called Bai Ding, and this phenomenon is usually related to factors such as changes in psychological needs, social pressure, and adjustment of partner relationships. The reasons for opposing DINK mainly involve five dimensions: pension security, emotional needs, social identity, family continuity, and partner consensus.

1. Pension Security

Some people are concerned about the lack of child care in their later years, and the traditional concept of raising children to support old age has prompted them to reconsider having children. As one grows older, anxiety about health risks and economic pressure may shake DINK determination, especially when witnessing peers enjoying family happiness, the willingness to have children may increase.

2. Emotional Needs

Humans naturally have a psychological need for parent-child bonding, and long-term absence may lead to existential anxiety. Some couples may have a desire to inherit their life experiences after a stable marriage, and childbirth becomes a carrier for deepening emotional bonds, which is particularly evident in middle age.

Thirdly, social identity

comes from the reproductive expectations of parents and the reproductive behavior of peer groups, which can create hidden pressure. The social isolation of parenting topics in the workplace may reinforce feelings of loneliness, and some people ultimately choose to compromise with mainstream family models to gain a sense of belonging. The concept of bloodline inheritance in clan culture has a lasting influence, especially for the generation of only children. When facing events such as family inheritance or the critical illness of elders, the traditional values of continuing the family lineage may be reactivated.

V. Partner Consensus

In marital dynamics, there may be asynchronous fertility intentions, and a change in one party's attitude can lead to relationship tension. Clinical cases have shown that women have a higher probability of changing their fertility intentions around the age of 35, which may disrupt the balance of the existing DINK contract. The choice between DINK or fertility should be based on sufficient psychological assessment and partner communication. It is recommended that couples engage in regular conversations about marriage values and clarify their true needs through professional partner counseling. Regardless of the choice, establishing a comprehensive social support network and elderly care planning can help reduce decision anxiety, with a focus on respecting individual life rhythms rather than blindly following social expectations. For couples who have changed their willingness to have children, it is recommended to reserve sufficient time for pre pregnancy psychological adjustment and health management.