Why did the 'DINK tribe' retract after marriage and become a 'Bai Ding'? The difference between unmarried and DINK tribes

The group of people who give up DINK and choose to have children after marriage is called Bai Ding, and the essential difference from unmarried people lies in their acceptance of marriage and childbirth. The main reasons for the DINK ethnic group's repentance include changes in fertility concepts, family pressure, changes in emotional needs, improvement in economic conditions, and unexpected pregnancies, while the unmarried ethnic group completely rejects the marriage system itself.

1. Changes in Fertility Concepts

Some DINK couples change their understanding of the value of life as they age. The approaching window of female fertility may trigger physiological instincts, and men may also experience identity anxiety due to their peers becoming fathers. The influence of traditional family values in society will strengthen with age, and some people may have a potential need to continue their genes.

2. Family pressure

The continuous pressure exerted by elders to pass on the family line is a common external factor. In traditional Chinese families, parents often intervene in their children's reproductive decisions through emotional manipulation, property inheritance, and other means. The group questioning during holiday gatherings with family and friends, as well as the social pressure of peers giving birth one after another, may prompt DINK couples to compromise.

3. Changes in emotional needs

After entering a period of stagnation in marriage, some couples may attempt to reshape their intimate relationship through childbirth. Children may become emotional bonds, easing the sense of alienation between couples. Some couples also consider raising offspring as a common life project, in order to fill the spiritual void after a stable career. Some women may experience compensatory reproductive psychology after the age of 35.

4. Improvement in economic conditions

The enhancement of economic ability will significantly reduce the fear of childbirth. When rigid expenditures such as housing and education no longer pose pressure, some DINK couples will reassess the cost of childbirth. After reaching a certain scale of asset accumulation, childbirth becomes an effective means of wealth inheritance. Stable career development can also provide a more comprehensive parenting support system.

5. Unintended pregnancy

Unplanned pregnancy is a sudden factor leading to DINK withdrawal. After contraceptive failure, some couples choose to continue pregnancy due to good fetal health or ethical pressure of abortion. Older pregnant women face greater risks of childbirth and may also lead to unintended pregnancies turning into active childbirth. Religious beliefs or social opinion may limit the options for terminating pregnancy. The core difference between unmarried and DINK ethnic groups lies in their fundamental attitudes towards the marriage system. Unmarried couples often question the necessity of marriage and may choose alternative models such as cohabitation or single childbirth, with their resistance based on the marriage contract itself rather than the act of reproduction. The DINK ethnic group generally recognizes the value of marriage and only temporarily or permanently gives up childbirth. When there is a significant value adjustment during the marriage, it is easier to transform into a Bai Ding. Regardless of the lifestyle choice, it is recommended to have in-depth value communication with your partner in advance, regularly review whether both parties' life plans are synchronized, and seek professional psychological counseling before making major decisions. Society should respect diverse family forms and avoid imposing moral pressure on non-traditional choices.