What to do if you want to get married? 3 things you need to know

Preparing for marriage can be achieved through pre marital psychological assessment, shared life planning, and family relationship communication. Marriage is usually influenced by factors such as emotional foundation, economic conditions, and family values.

1. Pre marital psychological assessment

Pre marital psychological assessment helps both parties understand each other's personality traits, emotional management abilities, and value matching. Personality tests or intimate relationship assessments can be conducted through professional psychological counseling to identify potential conflict points. Focus on observing whether the ways in which both parties handle conflicts are complementary, such as whether one party can actively communicate when avoiding conflicts. Long term long-distance or culturally diverse partners need to pay special attention to adaptability assessment.

2. Co living Planning

Develop a specific list of life goals, including living arrangements, financial allocation, family planning, and other practical issues. Suggest establishing a common account while retaining some personal economic space and clarifying the proportion of household chores. Record the core needs of both parties for quality of life, such as differences in sleep time, social frequency, and other details, and negotiate a compromise plan in advance. Regularly check the implementation status of the plan and dynamically adjust it.

3. Family Relationship Communication

Before marriage, it is necessary to establish boundary consensus with both parties' original families, clarify the principles for handling sensitive issues such as holiday arrangements and support responsibilities. Observe interaction patterns through informal occasions such as family dinners, paying special attention to the degree of parental intervention in marriage. Practice using us instead of me to express ourselves and cultivate the ability to cope with family pressure together. A family meeting mechanism can be designed to handle major disagreements.

It is recommended to maintain regular and in-depth conversations during the preparation period for marriage, and choose to have open communication during relaxed periods such as early morning on weekends or before bedtime. Participate in collaborative activities such as cooking classes together and observe each other's cooperation under pressure. Establish an emotional diary to record the growth and changes of both parties, and review the progress of the relationship quarterly. If there are persistent communication barriers, seek guidance from a marriage and family counselor. Be careful to avoid bringing work pressure into intimate relationship discussions and maintain nonverbal emotional connections such as physical contact.