When your phone pops up a greeting saying 'How have you been lately?' will you reflexively reply with 'pretty good,' or will you suddenly have a sore nose? In modern relationships, people who can listen attentively to you talk about these three topics may care more about you than they imagine.
1. People who talk about "money" without hurting emotions
1. Proactively mentioning their economic situation
In an era where the average person is "refined and poor", people who can openly discuss salary, debt, and financial plans often establish deep trust. This kind of dialogue requires both parties to let go of their guard.
2. Do not judge consumer choices
When you hesitate whether to buy a new phone, the other party will not simply say "don't spend money recklessly", but will help you analyze usage frequency and alternative solutions.
3. The relationship of being able to borrow money
Financial psychology research shows that 90% of relatives The breakdown of confidential relationships is related to financial disputes. People who dare to borrow money from you are essentially gambling on the value of your relationship.
2. People who don't mind the trouble of talking about "illness"
1. Remember your allergen
The person who naturally says "she doesn't eat cilantro" at a dinner party often silently takes notes in places you can't see. The cost of memorizing such details far exceeds imagination.
2. Sincerity in actively accompanying patients
"Tomorrow I will take a day off to accompany you to the hospital" is 100 times more precious than "drinking more hot water". Time is the most luxurious investment in modern times.
3. Pay attention to mental health
Being able to detect your low mood and ask "Do you need to talk to someone" has already surpassed ordinary social distance. This sensitivity requires long-term emotional investment.
3. People who are not perfunctory when talking about the "future"
1. Listen carefully to the five-year plan
When you say you want to resign, take the postgraduate entrance examination/start a business/GPyear, the other party will not interrupt with a "realistic point", but will ask for specific implementation steps.
2. Proactively providing resources
"I know a mentor to recommend", "My former colleague has done similar projects" - this kind of information sharing is a touchstone of relationship depth. The adult world is full of polite words, and those who can talk to you about these topics have already opened a VIP channel for you in their hearts. They may not like or comment every day, but they will definitely appear on time at a critical point in your life. Cherish those who can calmly discuss money, illness, and the future - in this fast-paced era, those who are willing to press the pause button for you are the true luxury.
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