The man who loves you so much should be deleted and blacklisted as soon as possible

Some emotions are like cache files in a phone, seemingly occupying memory but having no value. When certain behavioral patterns repeatedly appear, perhaps it's time to consider pressing the red delete button.

1. Three disguises of emotional blackmail

1. Control in the name of love

Behind the phrase "If I didn't care about you, I wouldn't bother to care", there is often the truth of excessive control. A healthy relationship should be like holding water with both hands, the tighter the grip, the faster it will flow away.

2. Emotional roller coaster style interaction

Hold you up to the sky today, treat you coldly and violently tomorrow. Psychology refers to this pattern as' intermittent reinforcement ', which can create a gambling like dependency that is more hurtful than stable bad relationships.

3. Always apologizing but never changing

Those late night confessions, like small essays, if they are just background music playing in a loop, indicate that he only loves the performance of his passionate self.

2. Five details to be wary of

1. Social circle isolation

gradually alienates you from friends and family, which is called a "two person world". Normal love should be like a puzzle, able to exist independently and perfectly fit together.

2. Financial opacity

Refuses to disclose your financial situation for various reasons, but shows abnormal concern for your income and expenses. Economic control is a common means of emotional manipulation.

3. Deny your value

Intervene in everything from dressing style to career choices, strengthen dependence by undermining confidence. True appreciation should allow people to relax rather than shrink.

4. Double standards

He can check his position at any time, and asking about his schedule is a sign of "distrust". The balance of relationships will eventually collapse if tilted for a long time.

5. Danger When encountering difficulties, one can never find someone, and when the storm passes, it suddenly appears again. The choice of critical moments can best reveal one's true feelings.

3. How to elegantly press the delete button

1. Establish emotional stop loss points

give yourself a clear bottom line list, like antivirus software that automatically blocks more Boundary behavior. Remember, tolerance is inversely proportional to self-worth.

2. Cultivate evacuation ability

Maintain economic independence and social circle, like an oxygen mask on an airplane, to ensure self rescue at any time.

3. Make good use of the 21 day rule

It takes three weeks for the brain to establish new habits. Try to avoid being alone for the first 21 days after a breakup and overwrite old memories with new experiences.

4. To complete the farewell ceremony [SEP], you can write an unsent letter or carry out symbolic item cleaning. Psychology has shown that a sense of ritual can accelerate psychological healing. The relationships that require you to constantly lower your standards to maintain are essentially an overdraft of life. In the adult world, there is no sudden disappearance of love, only layers of accumulated disappointment. When you start to doubt whether he really loves me or not, the answer is already clear and visible. Remember, deletion is not about losing, but about freeing up storage space for a better version.