Nowadays, even the mother-in-law looks at her daughter-in-law's face

When the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is tense, the attitude of the daughter-in-law may indeed affect the mother-in-law's psychological state. In modern family structures, economic independence and intergenerational differences are the main sources of contradictions. After the weakening of traditional authority, mothers in law may adjust their own behavior by observing their wives' reactions. The mother-in-law daughter-in-law relationship is essentially a non blood relationship, where both parties are connected by a male member of common concern. When the daughter-in-law shows obvious emotions, the mother-in-law will develop defensive psychological reactions, which are related to the redistribution of family power. The younger generation holds more economic resources and social discourse power, while the older generation may maintain a balance of relationships through compromise, resulting in a superficial appearance.

In special circumstances where there is a reverse power relationship, such as when the mother-in-law holds property or parenting resources, there may be deliberate pleasing behavior by the daughter-in-law. In rural left behind families, daughters in law who bear the obligation of support may have a higher voice. In cross regional marriage, cultural adaptation pressure can also exacerbate the status game between both parties, which belong to atypical interaction patterns. Improving the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law requires establishing a clear sense of boundaries. It is recommended to clarify division of labor through regular family meetings, cultivate common interests and hobbies, and shift the focus of attention. Economically independent parties can try the AA system to share household expenses and reduce the sense of control competition caused by money. Three generation families can set up physical isolation spaces to reserve emotional buffer zones for each other, and seek professional family therapists to intervene and mediate if necessary.