Never use sex to fall in love. The harm of long-term dating

Long term use of sex as a core element in love may have a negative impact on the psychological and emotional relationship between both parties. Excessive dependence on maintaining relationships can easily lead to emotional alienation, trust crisis, decreased self-worth, relationship imbalance, and false intimacy.

1. Emotional distance

The release of oxytocin and dopamine during sexual activity can create a temporary illusion of intimacy, masking the lack of genuine emotional communication. After the passionate period, both parties may find a lack of common language and emotional foundation, and the relationship becomes hollow. Long term behavior can lead to a growing emotional distance between partners, ultimately evolving into a purely physiological relationship pattern.

2. Trust Crisis

Sexually dominant romantic relationships can easily breed possessiveness and suspicion. One party may view the frequency of sexual activity as evidence of love, while the other may develop a sense of avoidance due to stress. This unequal expectation can undermine the sense of security in the relationship, leading to unhealthy behavior patterns such as job inspections and probing, and in severe cases, may trigger emotional manipulation.

3. Decreased self-worth

Overbinding self-worth with sexual attraction may lead to biological anxiety. As age increases or physical condition changes, it is easy to fall into self doubt. Some people may experience physical shame or performative sexual behavior, suppressing their true needs for a long time to please their partners, ultimately leading to mental health problems.

4. Relationship imbalance

Sexually driven love often overlooks equal dialogue on the spiritual level. The strong party may use sexual coercion to control the direction of the relationship, while the weak party may use sexual compromise to maintain the relationship. This unequal power can hinder the healthy resolution of conflicts, allowing small problems to accumulate into major conflicts, ultimately leading to double the damage when relationships break down.

5. Falsification of Intimacy

Frequent sexual activity accelerates dopamine tolerance and requires stronger stimulation to achieve the same level of pleasure. This may lead to a vicious cycle of pursuing novelty in the relationship, causing both parties to mistake stimulation for intimacy. True emotional connection requires the accumulation of shared experiences, values alignment, and subtle daily care, all of which cannot be replaced by sex. Establishing a healthy romantic relationship requires balancing physiological needs and emotional communication. It is recommended that partners engage in regular in-depth conversations, cultivate common interests and hobbies, and maintain appropriate personal space. When encountering communication barriers, you can try emotional diaries or psychological counseling. Pay attention to the power dynamics in the relationship and ensure that both parties' needs are treated equally. Long term relationships require managing warmth in daily small things rather than relying on intense physiological stimuli to maintain connection.