Never marry for love, never marry for love

Marriage choices should balance emotional needs and practical considerations. Marriage purely for love or based solely on practical conditions may bring long-term relationship risks. A healthy marriage requires consideration of five core dimensions: emotional foundation, value matching, economic stability, family support, and life goals.

1. Emotional Foundation

Strong emotional attraction can stimulate initial motivation for marriage, but the peak of dopamine secretion usually lasts for 18-36 months. After the activity of the brain reward system decreases, partners need to develop deeper emotional connections. Long term relationship satisfaction is related to levels of oxytocin, a hormone that gradually accumulates through daily intimate interactions.

2. Value Matching

73% of conflicts in marriage stem from differences in core values. The compatibility of deep value orientations such as reproductive concepts, consumption habits, and religious beliefs is more important than superficial personality complementarity. At least 6 months of in-depth communication on major life issues should be conducted before marriage to avoid principled differences after marriage.

III. Economic Stability

Economic pressure can increase the probability of marital conflict by 40%. A stable source of income and reasonable financial planning can reduce daily friction by 53%. It is recommended to establish a joint account before marriage while maintaining some economic autonomy, and develop a 3-5 year family financial development plan.

Fourth, Family Support

The divorce rate of marriages with parental blessings is reduced by 28%. The quality of the original family relationship directly affects the establishment of the boundaries of the new family. Attention should be paid to observing the interaction patterns between partners and their respective original families, as excessive attachment or complete opposition may be replicated in the new family system.

V. Life Goals

Differences in career planning lead to 15% of marital crises. It is necessary to clarify whether specific life paths such as choosing a place of residence and prioritizing career development are compatible. Suggest creating a two person career planning chart, indicating key time points and response plans that may cause conflicts.

It is recommended to undergo professional marriage counseling and evaluation before marriage, and analyze the maturity of the relationship through standardized assessment tools. Regularly conduct relationship quality checks and establish effective conflict resolution mechanisms. Maintaining the synchronicity between individual growth and relationship development requires dynamic adjustment of interaction patterns at different stages of marriage. Pay attention to the balance of power in the relationship, as excessive unilateral efforts often lead to imbalanced relationships in the later stages. Cultivating a shared social circle while preserving independent space, a healthy marriage requires moderate psychological boundaries.