Life advice: Don't worry too much about your parents, partner, and children

Have you ever noticed that the more people you care about, the more likely it is to make you anxious? Parents' bodies, partners' emotions, children's studies... an endless amount of mental stress every day, resulting in oneself being half dead and the other party not understanding. In fact, excessive worry not only consumes oneself, but may also make relationships tense.

Why do the more you worry, the worse your relationship gets?

1. Worry ≠ love, which may actually suffocate the other person

What you think of as "care" may be seen as "control" in the other person's eyes. For example, if a child is asked every day, "Have you finished your homework?" or "How did you do on the exam?", the child may actually resist learning.

2. Excessive intervention deprives the other party of opportunities for growth

Parents always make decisions for their children, and children cannot learn to think independently; You take care of everything for your partner, but they take it for granted. 3. Your anxiety can be contagious. psychological research has found that emotions can be contagious. The more nervous you are, the more likely your family members are to become anxious, forming a vicious cycle.

2. How to achieve "moderate care"?

1. Learn "topic separation"

Parents' bodies are their own responsibility, you can remind them, but don't worry about them. Listening is more effective than guidance in dealing with the work pressure of a partner.

Making children bear the consequences of their own learning is more effective than urging them every day.

2. Replace "control" with "trust"

Believe that parents can take care of themselves, they are stronger than you imagine.

Give your partner space to solve problems on their own, rather than making decisions for them.

Let children try and make mistakes, failure is also a part of growth.

3. Take care of yourself first, only then can you love others better.

Your emotions are stable, and your family will feel at ease. If you live easy, they will be more willing to get closer to you.

3. True wise love is "moving forward without burdening others"

1. What parents need is companionship, not excessive worry.

Regularly calling and going home to check is warmer than daily reminders to "remember to take your medicine".

2. What a partner needs is support, not your command.

When he encounters difficulties, saying "I believe you can handle them well" is more powerful than rushing for him. What children need is role models, not your agency. If you live a wonderful life, children will naturally learn from you. Love is not about binding, but letting go. Instead of spending all your energy on 'worrying', it's better to learn to trust and let everyone live their own rhythm. When you stop intervening excessively, you will find that the relationship becomes easier and closer Secret.