Don't get married for love, don't get married for the sake of marriage

Both marrying for love and marrying for the sake of marriage may bring potential psychological risks, and the key lies in individuals' clear understanding and emotional preparation for marriage. Marriage motivations are mainly divided into two categories: emotional driven and social pressure driven. The former is based on intimate relationships, while the latter is prone to falling into role-playing dilemmas.

Emotionally driven marriages are typically built on long-term emotional connections and a willingness to grow together, allowing both partners to better cope with life challenges. In this mode, individuals are more likely to access emotional support systems and conflict resolution is more constructive. But we need to be wary of equating romantic fantasies with the essence of marriage, and sustained emotional investment and boundary management are the key to maintaining it. Social pressure marriages often stem from external factors such as age anxiety and family expectations, which may accelerate relationship burnout and lack of value. When marriage becomes a task rather than a choice, it can easily lead to chronic emotional alienation and even trigger depressive tendencies. The marriage and love scripts in traditional culture can reinforce this dilemma and lead individuals into a state of cognitive dissonance. Regardless of the chosen form of marriage, it is recommended to undergo a systematic psychological assessment before marriage, including value matching tests and exploration of conflict resolution modes. Regular partner counseling can help identify potential risks and cultivate healthy intimate relationship patterns. Pay attention to maintaining individual independence, marriage should be a partner relationship for the journey of life rather than a substitute for life goals.