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Adolescence is different from childhood and adulthood, and its biggest characteristic is the development and maturation of sexual organs, leading to rapid changes throughout the body and mind. Zhang Shengyuan, a renowned adolescent psychological counseling expert in China, believes that sex education is the core of adolescent education and the top priority of adolescence. For children who have just entered puberty, the most important psychological characteristics during this period are the awakening of "self-awareness" and "sexual awareness". Children who enter this period will have some problems in "sex" to varying degrees. Therefore, this period is also the most important time in a person's life when sex education is needed. Sex education is not only about knowledge education, but also about personality education. The ultimate goal of sex education is not to impart a large amount of sexual knowledge to children, but to teach them the correct sexual attitudes and behaviors. Sex is an important component of personality, and only by effectively addressing sexual issues can a teenager achieve a good personality.

Regarding the way of sex education, it should not be focused on imparting knowledge, but should be communicated equally. It is necessary to avoid standing in the position of educators and giving empty and abstract lectures such as "distinguishing friendship and love". It is important to timely understand and discover the problems that teenagers face in their interactions and interactions with the opposite sex, allowing them to think, discuss, and solve them on their own. Parents and teachers can only guide and guide them from the sidelines. There is nothing more harmful to young people than stolen knowledge. When nature itself begins to awaken young people's interest in sexual issues, then a reasonable and pure understanding of the secrets of nature is the only way to save them from harmful pornography. Therefore, sex education is not a passive prevention education, but a positive and open education. We should provide education on sexual physiology before the child's physical development, sexual psychology before the child's sexual consciousness begins, and sexual ethics before the child's sexual behavior develops.

Sex education requires sexual psychological counseling

For boys and girls, the focus of sex education is limited to sexual safety education, and it is not enough to only talk about contraception, but also to understand their sexual psychology. If you don't understand their sexual psychology, sex education is like talking for nothing.

There is a conversation between a mother and daughter that reflects to some extent the sexual psychology of teenagers born in the 1990s -

The mother asked her daughter, who is in the third year of junior high school, "Has there been a situation where a female classmate in the class got pregnant or had an abortion?"

The daughter said, "There are a few, but these students all have their own 'reasons' for getting pregnant."

The daughter explained to her mother that the first type of pregnant girl wants to use pregnancy to hold her favorite boy in her hand and use sexual means to strengthen their relationship; The second type is when one is involuntarily trapped in a romantic relationship and unable to extricate themselves, and then becomes anxious and fearful after becoming pregnant; The idea of the third type of girls is quite practical, with the aim of enjoying the present moment and being willing to take on the responsibility of "pregnancy", which is a typical "living in the present" style of the new generation. After listening to this passage, the mother was surprised and asked, "Are these children not afraid of getting pregnant or having an abortion?" The daughter of SEP smiled and replied, "Mom, your approach no longer works for us. Do you know that we are very averse to threatening and intimidating sexual education methods?"

found in the "Investigation of the Psychological Status and Family Environment of Unmarried Pregnant Girls" that among 100 unmarried pregnant girls aged 10-19, the average gestational age was 17.2 years old, of which 65% were in early love, 18 cases were due to impulse, 16 cases were out of curiosity about sex, and 1 case was caused by rape. Among this group of pregnant girls, 68% of them believe that their pregnancy is related to family factors. Guo Li said that this group of children generally reflect a lack of intimacy and distance among their family members, poor expression of family affection, and prominent family conflicts. And these children also have poor communication skills in the family, unable to effectively resolve conflicts between family members. It is precisely because of these family problems that many young boys and girls have weakened their ability to control sexual behavior, and sexual activity occurs early and unmarried pregnancies are more common. In such a situation, not teaching sexual psychology to middle school students is equivalent to giving sex education for nothing. Guo Li said that children in adolescence often have negative emotions, especially during the rebellious period when they face opposition and rejection from their parents. They are eager to build their own confidence, want to mature, resist regulation, and lack understanding and support. Their sense of loneliness is stronger than ever before, and they are eager to find someone to accompany them through these lonely days. Therefore, they are prone to early love and sexual behavior. Children who engage in frequent sexual activity have lower levels of self-esteem and higher levels of emotional loneliness compared to their peers.