What if a child doesn't like to talk to their parents

Children who do not like to talk to their parents can improve their communication skills, increase parent-child interaction, pay attention to psychological needs, create a relaxed atmosphere, and set an example. Children's unwillingness to communicate may be related to psychological changes during adolescence, family environment pressure, inappropriate communication methods, lack of common topics, introverted personality, and other factors.

1. Improve communication methods

Avoid using imperative or interrogative language and try to guide conversations with open-ended questions. Squat down and communicate with the child at eye level to reduce the sense of oppression from a high position. Maintain eye contact and body language response during communication to make children feel respected. Avoid forcefully starting serious topics at the dinner table or when children are focused.

2. Increase parent-child interaction

Establish natural communication scenes through joint participation in activities such as handicrafts, cooking, and sports. Set a fixed family activity time every week, such as playing chess or watching movies, to create relaxing memories. The posture of walking in parallel while going for a walk can reduce conversation pressure and is easier to open up than face-to-face conversations.

3. Pay attention to psychological needs

Observe nonverbal signals of children's emotional fluctuations, such as sudden silence, avoidance of gaze, etc. Understand their social circle and interests, using the topics they are interested in as a starting point. Appropriate privacy space should be provided for adolescent children, and care should be conveyed through non instant means such as message boards.

4. Create a relaxed atmosphere

Reduce the frequency of discussing sensitive topics such as academic performance at home. Set up cozy communication corners such as bay window cushions, small tea tables, and other informal spaces. Parents can first share their own interesting stories or setbacks of the day and demonstrate a candid communication mode. Avoid interrupting or rushing to give an evaluation when the child is speaking.

5. Set an example

Parents need to review their own mobile phone usage habits and set up periods without electronic devices. Maintain good communication patterns between spouses and encourage children to observe healthy interpersonal interactions. Show a warm but non intrusive attitude towards visiting children and friends, and establish a foundation of trust.

Healthy snacks that children like can be prepared as a medium for tea parties in daily life, such as fruit yogurt cups, nut platters, etc. Pay attention to observing the physiological cycle of children's emotional changes and choose a time when their mental state is better to communicate. Long term communication barriers are recommended to be addressed through professional interventions such as parent-child psychological counseling and family therapy to avoid forcibly crossing the child's psychological boundaries and causing rebellion. Parents need to be patient, as most communication problems during adolescence will naturally ease with age.