Never marry for love, not for love alone

Whether the choice of marriage should be based solely on love needs to be comprehensively considered in conjunction with practical factors. Marriage purely based on love may lead to a decrease in marital stability due to a lack of material foundation, conflicting values, family pressure, differences in future planning, and insufficient personality compatibility. In marital relationships, emotional needs are only one of the many dimensions. Long term cohabitation requires economic security as the foundation, and income inequality or incompatible consumption concepts may lead to ongoing conflicts. The degree of involvement of both parties' original families in marriage, differences in reproductive concepts, and differences in children's educational beliefs are often gradually revealed after the honeymoon period. Conflicts in career development planning may lead to long-distance separation, and the accumulation of differences in lifestyle habits will continue to consume emotions. In some marriages, emotional impulses mask potential risks. The lack of clear agreement on premarital property may lead to disputes, major illnesses, and other emergencies that test the resilience of relationships. Differences in social circles can reduce common topics, and differences in psychological maturity can lead to an imbalance in conflict resolution abilities. The collision of traditional concepts and modern thinking, differences in religious beliefs, and age generation gaps can all become the trigger for marital conflicts.

It is recommended to conduct a systematic evaluation before marriage, including financial planning tests, conflict resolution exercises, value matching analysis, and other professional assessments. Establish a regular communication mechanism to maintain a common growth rhythm, and if necessary, provide premarital psychological counseling. Marriage decisions should balance emotional needs and practical considerations, neither overly idealized nor completely utilitarian, and achieve long-term stability through sustained relationship maintenance.