Marriage is like a pair of shoes, only you know whether they fit or not. But some shoes have been worn to the point of blood and flesh, yet they are still gritting their teeth and persevering. Psychologists tell you that when these signals appear in marriage, timely stop loss requires more courage than blindly persisting.
1. Long term cold violence is more terrifying than arguments
1. Silence is the sharpest knife
Couples who have not communicated effectively for more than 3 months have a success rate of less than 7% in reconciling. Cold violence can destroy the foundation of trust, just like chronic poisoning.
2. Refuse any relatives Close contact
with fingertip touch When instinctively dodging, the body is more honest than language. Anthropologists have found that loving couples have an average of 16 unconscious physical contacts per day.
3. Transform your home into a shared rental house [SEP]. Order takeout separately, sleep in separate rooms, and implement an AA billing system. The longer this' roommate type marriage 'lasts, the more severe the emotional account overdraft becomes.
2. Conflict of values cannot be reconciled
1. Consumer attitudes are completely opposite
One insists on "enjoying the moment", while the other advocates "being prepared for the future". Financial conflicts are the third major cause of marital breakdown.
2. educational philosophy is incompatible.
Whether to adopt a "chicken baby" or "free range" approach is not just a difference in methods, but also reflects a deep gap in values.
3. Going against life goals
When one pursues career breakthroughs, the other is thirsty Looking towards rural life, the space for compromise will become increasingly limited.
3. Three dangerous states after infidelity
1. Repetitive infidelity addiction
The probability of relapse for habitual cheaters is as high as 83%, which is not a mistake but a pattern.
2. No remorse or sincerity
Deleting records, shirking responsibility, and turning the blame upside down are more serious than cheating itself Fate.
3. The victim exhibits PTSD symptoms [SEP], including insomnia, palpitations, and inexplicable crying. These traumatic reactions indicate that the trust system has collapsed.
4. Domestic violence only occurs 0 times and countless times
1. Physical violence will escalate
From pushing to slapping, violent behavior has a gradual characteristic.
2. Verbal violence is more covert
Words like "If you leave, no one will want you" are as harmful as fists.
3. Economic control is a new type of domestic violence
Confiscating salary cards and restricting consumer freedom are all forms of control based violence.
5. Marriage with unilateral contributions
1. Always taking care of the "giant baby"
One party is responsible for the triple pressure of household chores, child rearing, and finances, and this imbalance will eventually be suppressed Collapse of marriage.
2. When sick, there is no one to take care of [SEP]. Sleeping in bed without receiving care indicates that emotional inventory has already been cleared.
3. Festivals never have surprises
All anniversaries are forgotten, essentially ignoring relationships. Marriage therapists have found that couples who come for counseling have to endure an average of 5 years of pain before seeking help. In fact, when these signals appear in marriage, timely stop loss is not a failure, but a sign of respect for oneself. As the saying goes: throw away the shoes that don't fit, only then can you find the path that truly suits you.
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