How to resolve conflicts between children and teachers

When children and teachers have conflicts, parents can resolve them through proactive communication, listening to their children's demands, negotiating with teachers, seeking school support, and psychological counseling if necessary. Contradictions may be caused by differences in teaching methods, communication misunderstandings, children's behavioral problems, personality conflicts between teachers and students, academic pressure, and other factors.

1. Proactive Communication

Parents should establish contact with teachers as soon as possible to avoid information bias caused by children passing on messages. Choosing face-to-face or phone communication is more effective. Maintain a calm attitude during communication, express understanding of the teacher's work first, and then objectively describe the feedback from the child. Avoid discussing sensitive issues in public settings such as class groups.

2. Listen to children's demands

Give children ample opportunities to express themselves and use open-ended questioning to understand the whole picture of the event. Pay attention to the emotional reactions and nonverbal information when children narrate, and distinguish between factual descriptions and subjective feelings. Young children may not be able to accurately retell the story, and parents can use role-playing and other methods to recreate the scene, but avoid suggestive questioning. 3. Negotiate with the teacher. After understanding the positions of both parties, propose specific and feasible solutions. For example, adjusting homework volume, changing criticism methods, increasing positive incentives, etc. It is recommended that teachers provide regular feedback on children's improvement, while parents cooperate with behavioral guidance at home. During negotiations, avoid blaming the other party and focus on problem-solving rather than assigning responsibility.

Fourth, seek school support

If direct communication is ineffective, the situation can be reported to the grade leader or moral education director. Provide specific examples and timelines to illustrate the communication efforts that have been made. Schools can arrange third-party teachers to participate in mediation or adjust class management strategies. Major conflicts can apply to view objective evidence such as monitoring records.

V. Psychological Counseling

Long term conflicts may lead to children's aversion or anxiety towards learning, manifested as refusal to learn, sleep disorders, etc. Child psychologists can help assess emotional states and provide guidance through methods such as sandplay therapy and cognitive behavioral training. Parents should also pay attention to their own emotional management to avoid transmitting anxiety to their children.

Cultivate children's ability to express their needs in daily life, and practice how to politely raise objections through picture books, scenario simulations, and other methods. Regularly maintain informal communication with teachers to understand children's performance in the group. Encourage children to record their school life, and parents can discover potential problems through diaries. If the conflict involves issues of principle such as corporal punishment and verbal violence, evidence should be retained and reported to the education authorities. Establish a communication system between home and school, and briefly record children's special behaviors every day to avoid misunderstandings caused by information asymmetry. During holidays, children can make handmade gifts to give to teachers, promoting emotional connection. For adolescent children, respect their right to participate in the resolution process and avoid complete substitution.