Finding such a 'mature' man to live a life, marriage is simply too happy

In the dating market, the word 'mature' is used too much. Some people think that being willing to pay is maturity, some believe that having a house and a car is maturity, and some equate age with maturity. But the mature traits that can truly make a happy marriage are often hidden in the details that are easily overlooked.

1. Three signs of emotional maturity

1. Being able to argue is more likely to reconcile

True maturity is not about never arguing, but about knowing how to set "safe words". When the dispute escalates, they will proactively call a stop and say, 'Let's all calm down for ten minutes now.'. Research has found that couples who use pause techniques can resolve conflicts three times faster.

2. Turning Complaints into Needs

Immature people only say "You never cared about me," while mature people say "Can you take a walk with me tomorrow. Accurately expressing needs can increase the other party's understanding by 60%, which is an important finding of John Gottman's Marriage Lab.

3. Having an emotional converter

When returning home from work, one does not vent work pressure on their family, but instead self regulates through exercise, music, and other methods. This emotional isolation ability is the key firewall to avoid family conflicts.

2. Hidden skills for mature life

1. Treat household chores as fun

Will actively study recipes to improve cooking skills, and treat mopping the floor as a fitness exercise. Data shows that couples who share household chores The satisfaction rate is 42% higher.

2. Financial transparency and planning

will not conceal consumption, but will not harshly criticize the other party for shopping. Establishing a joint account while retaining a moderate amount of private money space is the most effective way to reduce financial disputes through flexible management. 3. Strong awareness of health management. Proactively arrange physical examinations, remind the other party to supplement vitamins, and pay attention to the sleep quality of family members. This kind of long-term thinking can double the ability of marriage to resist risks.

3. The unique charm of mature thinking

1. Respect differences without transformation

Understand that "changing oneself is divine, changing others is insane", and allow partners to retain 20% of their differences. Appropriate differences can actually maintain the freshness of marriage.

2. Continuous growth without stagnation

Maintain reading habits and be curious about emerging things. Such a person is like an endless book, always able to surprise their partner.

3. Take responsibility and do not evade

When encountering problems, the first reaction is to solve them rather than blame, and actively coordinate family affairs without being lazy. This reliability is the ultimate source of security.

4. How to identify pseudo maturity?

1. Be wary of being overly attentive during the pursuit period, and become completely different after marriage. To observe how he treats strangers such as waiters is the true mirror of his character.

2. Distinguish between stability and dullness

True maturity is the transparency after experiencing vicissitudes, not the rigidity of aging before maturity. See if he still maintains his passion and sense of humor towards life.

3. Test emergency response

Intentionally causing a small accident (such as spilling a water cup), observe whether the first reaction is to solve the problem or vent emotions. This moment is the most revealing of essence. Marriage is like starting a company in partnership, finding a mature and reliable partner will naturally lead to smooth sailing. But remember that no one is perfect, the key is whether they have the ability to continue evolving. Encountering such a partner, you will find yourself becoming better unconsciously. This is probably the most beautiful form of marriage - mutual achievement and common growth.