Actually, dating is all about looking at your face

Physical attractiveness does play an important role in the early stages of a relationship, but long-term relationships rely more on personality matching and emotional resonance. Appearance determines the willingness to have initial contact, while factors such as values, communication styles, and emotional values are the core of maintaining intimate relationships. The role of appearance in the budding stage of love cannot be ignored. Human beings have an instinctive preference for appearance when choosing a spouse, and symmetrical facial features, healthy body shape, etc. can transmit genetic advantage signals and stimulate the desire to approach. psychological research shows that people react faster to faces that conform to the golden ratio than ordinary faces, and this preference is related to the activation of brain reward circuits. The speed dating experiment confirmed that participants with high appearance scores have a significantly higher probability of receiving date invitations, and this tendency is also significant in the matching data of dating platforms. After deep interaction, the influence of appearance gradually weakens. When both parties establish an emotional connection, the halo effect in cognitive bias can subjectively beautify the other person's image, a phenomenon known as positive illusion in psychology. There is a difference in facial attractiveness evaluation between long-term partners and strangers, and emotional involvement can alter the visual cortex's processing of partner faces. Clinical investigations have found that less than 20% of breakup cases in marriage and love counseling are caused by dissatisfaction with appearance, and most conflicts stem from deep-seated issues such as value conflicts and emotional neglect. Some individuals with body image disorders may still experience anxiety even if their partner has outstanding appearance, which requires professional psychological intervention. Establishing a healthy romantic relationship requires a balance between appearance perception and inner exploration. Regular shared interest activities can promote emotional resonance, use nonviolent communication skills to handle differences, and understand each other's needs through personality tools such as MBTI. It is recommended to establish reasonable expectations in the early stage of mate selection, focusing on core traits such as emotional stability and empathy. Physical attractiveness can be moderately improved through fitness and clothing, but the lasting happiness of intimate relationships depends on the emotional management ability of both parties.