Your circle determines your height, stay away from people with low-energy constitution

Some people are like walking 'emotional black holes', getting close to them will make them inexplicably tired. Do you have friends who complain about their work, roast about their colleagues and cry about their feelings every time they meet? Although I am in a good mood, it feels like I have been drained of energy after chatting. Actually, this is not an illusion. Modern psychology confirms that human emotions can really spread like a virus.

1. Three Characteristics of Low Energy People

1. Emotional Roller Coaster Players

One second they are still laughing, the next second they suddenly become silent. Their emotional fluctuations are irregular, like explosions from time to time Bounce, keep people around in a state of constant tension. These people often have sleep disorders and eating disorders.

2. Professional problem manufacturing machine

The same problem repeatedly occurs, always saying "there's really nothing we can do this time". When you give advice, they always have a hundred thousand 'buts' waiting to refute. In fact, they do not want a solution, they are just addicted to playing the role of victims.

3. Energy Vampire type

always complains when meeting, and before hanging up the phone, adds a sentence "Only you can understand me". They are good at using emotions to kidnap and consume others. The most classic line is: "If you also abandon me, I will really be finished."

Secondly, why should we stay away from the energy black hole?

1. Mirror neurons at work

The brain unconsciously imitates the expressions and body language of people around it. When the other person keeps sighing and frowning, your muscles will unconsciously replicate these movements, causing a real sense of fatigue.

2. Elevated cortisol levels

Long term exposure to negative emotions can stimulate the secretion of stress hormones. Research has found that spending 15 minutes with negative people can increase cortisol levels in the body by 26%, equivalent to the effect of working two hours of overtime continuously.

3. Cognitive resources are encroached upon

Every complaint consumes the listener's attention resources. When the brain constantly processes negative information, the bandwidth used for creative thinking is severely squeezed.

3. Practical tips for establishing an energy protection shield

1. Set a physical isolation zone

to change the meeting frequency from weekly to monthly, and control the call time within 20 minutes. Set quotas for negative social interactions like managing sweet food intake.

2. Learn polite cutting off techniques

When the conversation slides into a vortex of complaints, you can elegantly leave with "I have something to prepare" or "The package seems to have arrived". Remember, this is not deception, but self-protection. After coming into contact with low-energy individuals, immediately listen to a cheerful song, watch a cute pet video, or smell citrus essential oil. These can quickly reset the frequency of emotions.

4. How to identify high-energy partners?

1. Bright and bright eyes

When these people speak, their pupils naturally dilate and their facial muscles relax. Even when recounting difficult experiences, there is a growing mindset in the tone.

2. They have the ability to pause.

They take a deep breath before their emotions erupt and can confidently say, "I need to calm down now. This emotional regulation ability will bring a sense of security to those around them.

3. Diverse and interesting topics

Chat content can cover everything from astronomy and geography to common anecdotes, rarely focusing on personal misfortunes. Every time we communicate, we can gain new perspectives. Your social circle is like an air purifier you carry with you, and who you choose to travel with determines the quality of emotions you breathe. There is no need to feel guilty about distancing oneself from certain people, just like plants actively grow towards sunlight, guarding one's own energy field is a biological instinct. Remember, a high-quality relationship never requires you to tiptoe to reach it. The people who truly nourish you are unwilling to let you work too hard.