Year end self restart plan: from "love hate casual" to true release

Your computer, which needs to be shut down and restarted to boost performance at the end of the year, and you, who are stuck in work and life, need a deep system update even more. The interpersonal conflicts, workplace grievances, and household chores that are repeatedly chewed on during late night emo are consuming emotional memory like background programs. Don't rush to forcefully shut down with the phrase 'forget it doesn't matter'. True relief is not about lying down passively, but about organizing the mind into fragments.

1. Identifying Emotional Cache Files

1. Error Reports from the Body

Shoulder and neck stiffness may be a buildup of workplace anxiety, and repeated insomnia may hide unresolved interpersonal conflicts. The body is more honest than the brain, and migraines and gastrointestinal discomfort that cannot be traced are often triggered by emotions The clock.

2. Redundant data in thinking

"Is my colleague's sentence directed at me?" "What would happen if we started over from three years ago These infinite cycles of thinking occupy a significant amount of psychological bandwidth. Try to label ideas: is this a fact or an imagination? Is it helpful for the present?

3. Expired links in relationships

Names in contact list that haven't been in touch for several years, likes on social media, and energy consuming plastic socializing. Interpersonal relationships also need to be disconnected, retaining those high-energy connections that can recharge each other.

2. Clean up psychological disk space

1. Establish an emotional recycling bin

Set aside 15 minutes every day for "thought excretion", write down your troubles on paper and then shred them. The physical processing method can create the illusion of "deleted" in the brain, which is much more effective than simply thinking in the mind.

2. Reset cognitive resolution

When encountering something bad, ask yourself: Will this matter still matter in three years? Placing worries in a longer time dimension will automatically downgrade many current issues to 'insignificant'.

3. Install an emotional firewall

Learn to distinguish between "my topic" and "someone else's topic". Relatives urging marriage and colleagues blaming others are life issues that do not need to be downloaded and run in one's own system.

3. Upgrade the mental operating system

1. Load the self-care plugin

and talk to yourself like treating your best friend. After staying up late and working overtime, it's not about blaming someone for being "inefficient", but rather saying "I worked hard today". Allow yourself to occasionally crash, even the computer needs to sleep, let alone the human brain.

2. Establish a Happy Resource Library

Collect small things that make your eyes light up: the moment when hot milk tea slides down your throat, the surprise of a subway seat suddenly becoming empty. Regularly deposit money into this' emotional piggy bank 'so that hope can only be retrieved during low periods.

3. Activate a growth mindset

Replace "how come I always" with "I learned this time". Smashing projects is not about personality denial, but about acquiring new skills to identify unreliable partners. Every setback is a patch package for system upgrade. Looking back at the end of the year, are the things that once kept you up at night now blurred? Pressing the delete button on old emotions is not forgetting, but freeing up space to load more important experiences. The true release is still willing to turn on the power for the morning sunshine after seeing the truth of life clearly.