Without these three things in a relationship, even if you love, you must learn to let go

Have you ever encountered such a relationship? Although the two are still together, it feels like they are separated by a layer of frosted glass, visible but intangible. The chat history on my phone has changed from 99+every day to checking in for "good morning" and "good night". During dates, I watch short videos and don't even bother to argue. This' zombie style love 'consumes more energy than being single, like walking in wet clothes, not visible on the surface, but already cold inside.

1. Emotions lacking effective communication are like a broken WiFi

1. Unidirectional output does not equal communication

Many people mistakenly think that reporting their itinerary and sharing jokes every day is just communication, but in fact, it is just information transmission. Real communication needs emotional resonance. For example, when the other party roast about work pressure, it is better to establish a connection by first saying "It sounds like you are really uncomfortable today" than directly giving solutions.

2. Avoiding conflicts and planting landmines

Suppressing dissatisfaction to avoid arguments is like sweeping garbage under a carpet. A visitor once recorded that she had 23 minor conflicts with her partner that she didn't even mention about forgetting her birthday three years ago when they finally erupted. Regularly undergoing 'relationship check ups' using the sentence' when XX, I feel XX 'is much healthier than accumulating resentment.

2. Emotions that have lost their sense of boundaries are like murky cocktails

1. Excessive attachment to each other and squeezing each other out

24-hour demands for reporting whereabouts, interfering in each other's social circles, and checking phone records, these controlling behaviors are often packaged as "caring". A healthy love is like two adjacent trees, each rooted and able to share sunlight, rather than a vine strangling symbiosis.

2. Blindly sacrificing to produce toxins

Giving up career development, distancing oneself from friends, and changing dietary habits, these seemingly great sacrifices often hide hidden hidden accounts. When one day it is discovered that the other party is "not paying back their debts", a sense of grievance will corrode the relationship. Good love does not require martyrs, but rather two complete individuals enriching each other.

3. A relationship that stops growing together is like an expired can

1. Stay in the first encounter version

He is still using the tactics of chasing you during college, and your topics always revolve around celebrity gossip. When one person is busy taking exams and learning new skills, while the other is addicted to short video games, it's like two trains in different directions, and the scenery outside the window is destined to become farther and farther away.

2. The blueprint for the future cannot be pieced together

One wants DINK, one is thirsty Hope three generations can live together; One plans to settle overseas, while the other needs to take care of their parents in their hometown. These differences cannot be resolved by simply saying 'love can conquer everything', just like two boarding passes to different destinations, forcibly taking the same route will only lead to missed flights.

Check your emotional account. If the "communication currency" has depreciated, the "boundary deposit" has a deficit, and the "growth fund" has stopped increasing, perhaps you should consider stopping losses in a timely manner. Love is not a clock in task that rewards persistence. Sometimes letting go is not a failure, but leaving space for better possibilities for each other. Just like organizing phone memory, deleting old cache, in order to download new versions of life.