When love turns into torment: these feelings should be turned around

Have you ever had such an experience? Although holding the other person's hand, it feels like a piece of ice is pressing down on my heart. When WeChat prompts the sound to start, the first reaction is not sweetness but stomach twitching. Some relationships are like wearing shoes that don't fit well, with a shiny surface and blood bubbles already worn out inside.

1. Emotional depletion is greater than nourishment

1. Persistent low battery state

Exhaustion after meeting lasts for more than 48 hours and requires solitude to restore energy. A healthy relationship should be like a power bank, occasionally creating emotional holes for each other, but a long-term one-sided power supply system is destined to short-circuit.

2. Happiness requires deliberate performance

Posting a group photo on social media requires repeatedly adjusting the smile curve, and automatically switching to a sweet template when friends and family ask about recent situations. True affection Secret doesn't require rehearsal, it has a natural presence like breathing.

3. Self awareness gradually becomes blurred

and begins to doubt whether they are "too demanding" or "too demanding", constantly lowering their bottom line to make excuses for the other party. Good love makes people love themselves more, rather than losing shape in compromise.

2. The body is more honest than the brain

1. Unexplained physical reactions

Increased frequency of migraine, cliff like decline in sleep quality, and no organic symptoms Stomach pain caused by pathological changes. The brain may deceive itself, but the vagus nerve is always pulling warnings.

2. Instinctively resist relatives Close contact

When the other person approaches, they hold their breath and hold hands as if fulfilling an obligation. Body language is more authentic than love words, and the essence of resisting contact is that the mind is dodging.

3. Continuously weakened immunity

Sudden increase in cold frequency and recurrent oral ulcers. Long term emotional stress can reduce the secretion of immunoglobulin A, which is the body's signal to seek help.

3. Relationship Loss of Resilience

1. communication Becomes a Minesweeper Game

Every sentence must be mentally rehearsed with three possible explosions Explosion reaction. A healthy relationship should be able to accommodate 70% of spontaneous conversations, rather than living in a dialogue book.

2. Automatically block the other party in the future plan

When planning next year's travel, the subconscious has already ruled out the two person option. The evacuation of the heart always precedes action, and the deleted shared lists are evidence.

3. Third party evaluation becomes a rescue The straw of fate

constantly seeks confirmation from friends whether this is normal, indicating that the balance of the inner world has already tilted. The feeling that requires confirmation from outsiders is already the answer. Love should not be the source of chronic pain. When you find yourself withering rather than blooming in this relationship, perhaps you should listen to those subtle warning sounds. Turning around is not about failure, but about making way for truly suitable happiness. Retaining the courage to leave is the greatest tenderness towards oneself.