When love is destined to be fruitless, smart people do it this way

Have you ever felt that way? Despite knowing that this relationship will not have a good outcome, I still refuse to let go like grabbing the last straw. The little person in my heart was shouting "escape quickly" while secretly hoping for something strange Trace occurrence. This kind of dilemma is like standing in the cold wind wearing a thin coat in winter, knowing that you will catch a cold but unwilling to leave.

1. Admitting reality is the first step

1. Stop self deception

Sometimes the brain can make up stories more than we imagine. It will automatically beautify memories, magnify occasional sweetness, and ignore daily harm. Trying to write down the details of the relationship and re-examine it from a third-party perspective often reveals overlooked truths.

2. Accept imperfect endings

Not all stories require a perfect ending. The significance of some relationships lies in allowing us to grow, rather than growing old together. Just like wrestling hurts while skiing, every scar teaches us better balance.

2. Rebuilding Life Order

1. Press the restart button for life

to temporarily put the places we have been to together and the restaurants we like into the "Memory Favorites". Try new commuting routes and discover new interests and hobbies. The brain needs fresh stimulation to establish new neural circuits and replace old dependency patterns.

2. Establish a health support system

Don't lock yourself in your room and loop through sad playlists. Invite a friend to play play badminton, attend a reading party, or sign up for a cooking class that he has always wanted to learn. Social activities can promote the secretion of oxytocin, a natural antidepressant that is much more effective than alcohol.

3. Direct energy towards the future

1. Develop a 90 day growth plan

and shift attention to things that can bring a sense of achievement. It can be taking a professional certificate, achieving fitness goals, or planning a solo trip. Every time a small goal is achieved, the brain rewards dopamine, a positive feedback that is more dependent on people than memories.

2. Redefine the standards of love

Take out a piece of paper and write "absolutely unacceptable" on the left and "ideal worth waiting for" on the right. This action can activate rational thinking in the prefrontal cortex, making it less likely to repeat the same mistake the next time you have a heart attack. Winter, no matter how cold, will pass. Under the snow covered land, new shoots are quietly accumulating strength. The nights that make you toss and turn will eventually become the most valuable chapters in the story of life. What we need to do now is to be gentle with ourselves and give ourselves some time.