When a man's self-esteem is hurt by someone he loves

When a man's self-esteem is hurt by his loved one, he usually experiences emotional suppression, avoidance of communication, or excessive defense. Impaired self-esteem may be caused by factors such as negative evaluations from partners, public denigration, comparison with others, neglect of emotional needs, or infidelity.

1. Emotional suppression

Men often hide their true feelings after experiencing self-esteem setbacks, manifested as silence or forced laughter. This suppression may trigger persistent low mood, and even affect sleep quality and appetite. Long term untreated emotional suppression may transform into somatic symptoms, such as headaches or gastrointestinal disorders.

2. Avoiding Communication

Men who are injured will deliberately reduce their deep communication with their partners, using busy work or fatigue as an excuse. Avoidance behavior may lead to strained relationships and create a vicious cycle. Some people may divert their attention by becoming addicted to games or social activities, further hindering emotional repair.

3. Excessive defense

manifests as being overly sensitive to a partner's words and actions, misinterpreting neutral language as aggression. Suddenly raising one's tone to refute or using ironic language is essentially protecting the fragile self through an aggressive posture. This defense mechanism will exacerbate conflicts and escalate simple contradictions into relational crises.

4. Self denial

Some men internalize harm and form negative self-awareness, leading to the core belief that they are not worthy of love or not. May be accompanied by doubts about abilities and decision-making difficulties, exhibiting abnormal caution or withdrawal behavior in the workplace and social settings.

5. Revenge behavior

A small number of people may seek psychological balance by resorting to cold violence, deliberately belittling their partners, or engaging in extramarital affairs. This type of behavior often stems from an untreated sense of shame, temporarily alleviating the pain of self-worth collapse by shifting the damage.

It is recommended that partners avoid using personality negative language in conflicts and use the "I" sentence structure more to express their needs. The injured can release stress hormones through exercise and rebuild cognition by talking to trusted friends. Regularly engage in non blaming communication exercises and establish a safe space for emotional expression. Severe self-esteem trauma can seek professional psychological counseling and use cognitive-behavioral therapy to adjust unreasonable belief systems. In the process of relationship repair, both parties need to jointly cultivate a communication mode that respects differences and rebuild the trust reserve of emotional accounts.