What is the psychology of a girl's self harming paddling? How should a mother accompany her

Girls who self harm while paddling may be caused by psychological factors such as emotional suppression, psychological trauma, self punishment, seeking attention, depression, etc. Parents need to help their children through professional psychological intervention and emotional support.

1. Emotional suppression

When negative emotions accumulated over a long period of time cannot be released through healthy means, some adolescents may choose to engage in self harm behavior to alleviate their inner pain. Parents should observe their children's daily emotional fluctuations, avoid simple preaching, and use non-verbal methods such as painting and diaries to help children express their feelings. Establish a fixed weekly heart to heart time and use open-ended questioning to understand the child's true thoughts. 2. Psychological trauma: After experiencing traumatic events such as campus bullying, domestic violence, or sexual assault, self harm may become a coping mechanism for transferring psychological pain. Parents need to identify potential sources of trauma and seek psychological counseling for trauma treatment if necessary. Maintain moderate physical contact during companionship and avoid excessive questioning of traumatic details that may cause secondary harm.

3. Self punishment

Children with excessive self blame or perfectionism tendencies may alleviate moral anxiety through physical pain. Parents need to adjust their educational methods, reduce outcome oriented evaluations, and emphasize that the process of effort is more important than the results. We can jointly develop a fault tolerance mechanism to guide children to use sports and other methods to replace self harm when they make mistakes.

4. Seeking Attention

In a long-term emotional neglect environment, children may use self harm as an extreme means of gaining attention. Parents need to re-establish stable emotional connections and convey unconditional love through daily hugs, active listening, and other behaviors. Set up family interaction time and enhance the quality of parent-child interaction through shared cooking, handicrafts, and other activities.

5. Depression

Pathological depression often leads to self harm behavior accompanied by persistent low mood, decreased interest, and other symptoms. Parents should accompany them to the psychiatric department for timely treatment, cooperate with cognitive-behavioral therapy and necessary medication therapy. Maintain regular sleep and supervision in daily life, pay attention to removing sharp objects, and closely observe emotional changes during medication. When parents accompany children who are prone to self harm, they need to maintain emotional stability and avoid overreaction. Sharp objects should be stored and managed uniformly, and regular psychological counseling should be provided. Add deep-sea fish, walnuts, and other foods rich in omega-3 fatty acids to your diet, and maintain moderate exercise to help regulate your emotions. Establish a family safety contract that stipulates the immediate activation of emergency contact mechanisms in case of self harm impulses, and 24-hour companionship if necessary. Record the emotional fluctuations of children, maintain communication with school teachers, and jointly build a support network. To avoid excessive anxiety in front of children, which may increase their psychological burden, parents should also seek the support of a psychological counselor to maintain a stable state of companionship.