What causes fear of marriage

Fear of marriage may be caused by factors such as family trauma, anxiety about intimate relationships, social pressure, economic limitations, personality traits, etc. Fear of marriage usually manifests as excessive worries about marriage, avoidance of intimate commitments, and emotional breakdowns before marriage, which can be alleviated through psychological counseling, cognitive-behavioral therapy, and partner growth together.

1. Trauma to the original family [SEP]: The breakdown or long-term conflict of parents' marriage may form a negative marriage template, and witnessing domestic violence, divorce, and other events can trigger catastrophic imagination of marriage. This group of people tends to associate marriage with painful experiences, and it is recommended to rebuild their understanding of intimate relationships through family system therapy.

2. Intimate relationship anxiety

Excessive dependence or avoidant attachment styles can lead to marital fear, fear of losing personal space or facing betrayal. Specific manifestations include repeatedly verifying partner loyalty, resistance to cohabitation, and other behaviors, which can be improved through attachment oriented psychotherapy.

3. Social pressure

The excessive dissemination of social news such as dowry disputes and conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can strengthen marital anxiety, and some people may withdraw due to fear of not meeting the expected marriage standards in society. Establishing a personalized marriage value assessment system can help alleviate such pressure.

4. Economic constraints

Real pressures such as housing and parenting may trigger survival anxiety, especially during economic downturns. This is related to an individual's ability to resist risks, which can be enhanced through methods such as prenuptial property notarization and joint financial planning to increase their sense of security.

5. Personality traits

Perfectionists are prone to excessive planning of marriage details, while highly sensitive individuals are overly alert to potential conflicts in marriage. Targeted mindfulness training and acceptance commitment therapy have shown better results.

It is recommended that individuals who are afraid of marriage gradually be exposed to marriage related situations, such as cohabitation, participation in partner's family activities, and other adaptive training. Maintaining regular exercise can help alleviate anxiety, and daily relaxation breathing exercises are recommended. Adding foods rich in tryptophan such as bananas and oats to the diet can promote serotonin secretion. If you experience persistent insomnia or low mood, seek professional psychological assistance in a timely manner.