What are people who love to argue about?

There are always a few "gangsters" in life, who tend to be biased and can even come up with eight hundred different perspectives on "the weather is really nice today". What are these people who love to argue about? Do they naturally enjoy singing against others? psychological research has found that there are many interesting psychological mechanisms behind the behavior of raising bars.

1. The Four Psychological Motivations for Provoking Behavior

1. Presence Anxiety

Obtaining attention by refuting others is like a child attracting attention by crying. These types of people often lack recognition during their growth, and as adults, they brush up their presence through physical altercations.

2. Cognitive rigidity leads to paranoia [SEP]. The brain instinctively defends existing beliefs, which is known in psychology as "confirmation bias". When encountering different viewpoints, some people's first reaction is not to think but to defend.

3. compensation for implicit inferiority complex

Use aggressive language to conceal inner anxiety, like a cat with explosive fur. Research has found that people with insufficient knowledge are more likely to become emotionally agitated during arguments.

4. Misalignment of social patterns

mistaking debate as a way of making friends, mistakenly believing that "the more you argue, the closer you get. This pattern often originates from the environment of communication through arguments in the native family.

2. How to identify different types of radicals

1. Logical radicals

Characteristics: Focus on details and prefer to use vague words such as "not necessarily" and "not necessarily".

Response: Respond with specific data to avoid getting stuck in an infinite error correction loop.

2. Emotionally aggressive

Characteristics: Exciting tone, easy to physically attack.

Response: Stay calm and terminate the conversation promptly.

3. Conspicuous Gang Spirit

Characteristics: Always appear to know more than others.

Response: Give appropriate recognition and satisfy their desire to perform.

3. Guidelines for coping with high emotional intelligence

1. Distinguish between facts and opinions

When the other party questions objective facts, authoritative evidence can be provided to support it; If it's just a difference in perspective, you can say 'this angle is very interesting'.

2. Set discussion boundaries.

Clearly states: "We can discuss, but please do not engage in personal attacks. Research has found that setting rules in advance can reduce 70% of invalid disputes.

3. Make good use of the sentence structure "Yes... and"

First affirm some of the content, and then supplement your own viewpoint. For example, "You're right, this aspect is indeed important, and we should also consider..."

4. Timely exit the conversation

When you find that the other party is just trying to argue, you can elegantly leave with "let's talk about this issue another time". Remember, not all conversations are worth continuing.

Next time you encounter someone who is arguing, why not try to understand more. They may not be targeting you, they are just temporarily trapped in their own thinking patterns. A true communication expert knows how to turn confrontation into the art of dialogue.