Warning from experienced individuals: 3 warning signs of weakened marital relationships, don't wait until divorce to understand

When I was scrolling through my phone late at night, I suddenly saw a photo of my best friend's divorce certificate posted on her social media, with only three words in the caption: 'Liberated'. She remembered that half a year ago when she had a dinner party, she said sweetly that her husband was too clingy, but now this marriage is like the flame of oxygen being sucked away, and it goes out silently. In fact, all relationship breakdowns can be traced, just like the warning signals issued by the body before falling ill.

1. conversation has changed from sharing to task reporting

1. The length of daily conversation has been shortened. Previously, we could chat on the phone until our mobile phone was hot. Now, WeChat records are all about "when to return" and "remember to pay the water and electricity bills". A study found that when couples communicate effectively for less than 15 minutes a day, they The secret relationship will cool down at a rate of 2% per week.

2. Emojis replace real emotions. When you start using the system's built-in smiling expressions instead of real laughter, and using "hmm" to brush off the other person's confession, this mechanical response will create the illusion in the brain that "this relationship is no longer important".

3. Avoiding in-depth topics intentionally avoids future planning, emotional needs, and other topics, limiting the chat content to express pick-up codes and who should dispose of garbage. This safe zone dialogue mode is equivalent to installing an automatic cruise control system for emotions.

2. Physical contact is like completing KPI

1. The farewell ceremony becomes a process. The hug before leaving the house is compressed from 20 seconds to 3 seconds, accompanied by the action of looking at the watch; The goodnight kiss moves from the lips to the forehead and then turns into an air kiss, which is a "shrinking phenomenon" of physical contact Explicit indicators of loss of sensitivity.

2. Pain transfer reaction: When the other person touches your elbow, you will instinctively retract your hand and naturally release the held hand when crossing the road. These small resistance movements expose physical intimacy The sense of rejection in close contact is more persuasive than verbal denial.

3. When gathering in public places, we will no longer help you wipe away the sauce from the corners of your mouth. Instead, we will actively move to the diagonal position in the elevator. This deliberate maintenance of social distance is often more appropriate than the coldness in the bedroom Fate.

3. When alone, the air suddenly becomes quiet

1. Silence becomes the default state. When two people are in the same room but watch short videos separately, the silence that cannot be covered by background music is like entering power-saving mode. Data shows that over 83% of divorced couples experience "coexisting loneliness" six months before their breakup.

2. The reason for canceling exclusive time and weekly movie nights has changed from "overtime" to "forgetting", and anniversaries have degenerated from carefully prepared gifts to WeChat red envelopes. The disappearance of this common sense of ceremony will accelerate the overdraft of emotional accounts.

3. Stop resolving conflicts and arguing over socks. It's not about becoming tolerant, but about feeling that it's not worth talking about. When you are too lazy to argue, your relationship has entered a vegetative state. Marriage is like a precision instrument that requires regular maintenance, and when 1-2 of the above signals appear, it can be repaired by increasing high-quality time spent together. But if all three danger signals are hit, it is recommended to intervene in a timely manner, just like discovering abnormal indicators during a physical examination. Tomorrow at breakfast, try putting down your phone and chat about your interesting dream from last night. This small action may be restarting your phone The key of the secret program.