To make children more independent, try these methods

Does the child always say 'whatever' or 'don't know'? Don't rush to label yourself as' indecisive '. The latest research in child psychology reveals that the so-called "difficulty in making choices" is actually a natural phenomenon in the process of brain development. Parents who always help their children make decisions may be disappointed - making choices for their children can actually delay the development of decision-making abilities. Why do children appear to lack independent thinking?

1. Lack of decision-making experience

The decision-making mechanism of the brain is like a muscle that requires repeated exercise. On average, each 3-year-old child only receives 1.2 opportunities for independent choice per day, far below what is needed for their ability development.

2. Afraid of bearing the consequences

When a child says "Mom choose", it may be because they remember being blamed for choosing the wrong one last time. This' decision fear 'can form a conditioned reflex.

3. Options Beyond Cognitive Range

Children under the age of 7 often feel confused when faced with open-ended questions such as "Where do you want to play on weekends. Their world is still composed of concrete things.

II. Three prime periods for cultivating ideas

1. Choose one from two for breakfast

Start training from "drinking milk or soybean milk". A study conducted by the University of Chicago showed that children who made small daily choices for two months had a 60% increase in decision-making speed.

2. When shopping in supermarkets,

sets a safety zone: "Today, you can choose a fruit under 10 yuan. Restricted freedom is the most effective way to build decision-making confidence.

3. Bedtime Story Time

Replace "which book to tell" with "choose one from these three books". Visual options can reduce the difficulty of selection.

3 behaviors that parents should avoid the most

1. Answering for their children

When someone asks their child "which color they like", resist the impulse to answer. Every deprived opportunity to answer is a loss of ability.

2. Negative selection results

Evaluations such as "I told you earlier to choose another one" can create decision-making shadows for children. Remember: there are no wrong choices, only different experiences.

3. Provide fuzzy options

"What do you want to eat" is ten times harder to answer than "choose between noodles or rice". The concretization of options is helpful rather than restrictive.

4. Advanced training method

1. Set a selection ladder

Starting from two choices, gradually increase the complexity of options. Just like upgrading in a game, decision-making ability also needs to be gradually improved.

2. Establish a selection ceremony

Set certain daily matters for children to decide, such as deciding the main course for family dinner every Wednesday. Regular decision-making can cultivate a sense of responsibility.

3. Play role-playing games

and let children act as "little parents" to choose dolls. This practice of detachment from perspective can strengthen decision-making awareness. When a child hesitates, don't rush to give an answer. Neuroscience confirms that every autonomous choice strengthens the neural connections in the prefrontal cortex. Those seemingly small decision-making moments are shaping children's thinking abilities when facing major choices in the future. Starting from tomorrow's breakfast, give the child the right to choose - remember to keep the options within a controllable range first.