Time is more expensive than money! 3 ways to never let down the people in front of you again

Have you ever had an experience where your phone's photo album is filled with family photos, but you rarely click to review; I can't help but watch short videos during every gathering, and when I look up, I notice my parents' hesitant expressions; The gifts I bought for my lover piled up like a small mountain, but the time they spent chatting seriously was few and far between. The most paradoxical contradiction of contemporary people is that we use the most efficient tools to save time, but waste the saved time on more insignificant things.

1. Establish time sensitive social habits

1. Set a non disruptive time period

Turn off electronic devices from 19:00 to 21:00 every day, which is dedicated to face-to-face communication. The brain secretes more melatonin in dark environments, and when you put down your phone to chat, memory retention is 47% higher than during the day.

2. Create ceremonial moments

Family board game day every Wednesday night, morning tea date on the first Sunday of each month, fixed programs are more likely to create anticipation than last-minute ideas. The "peak end law" in psychology shows that a person's evaluation of a relationship often depends on the peak experience and the end feeling.

2. Upgrade the quality of companionship rather than quantity

1. Activate deep dialogue mode

Replace "How was your day" with "What recent events have made your eyes light up", and activate genuine expression with open-ended questions. Neuroscience research has found that when people share emotional experiences, the brain waves of the speaker and listener resonate synchronously.

2. Develop common memory points

Learning dialect nursery rhymes together, replicating childhood specialties, and sharing experiences can stimulate the release of oxytocin in the brain. This substance, known as the "hug hormone," lasts three times longer than the pleasure brought by simply giving gifts.

3. Visualize Time expenditure

1. Create a Relationship Bookbook

Use different colored labels to record time investments for family, partners, and friends. During weekly reviews, it will be found that social events that claim to have "no time" often consume the most precious orange time slots (high-quality companionship time).

2. Design a time reminder device

to place an hourglass countdown timer in the entrance, flipping it for 30 minutes each time you enter. When the sand runs out, it means that the effective communication time for today is about to run out, and this concrete reminder is more impactful than a mobile alarm clock. French philosopher Pascal once said that all human problems stem from the inability to be alone and quiet. But today we may need to revise this judgment - our bigger dilemma is living as an island amidst crowds. Those promises that always say 'wait until I have time' are like blank checks that can never be cashed. Starting tonight, let's make the living room the center of the home again, instead of separate islands holding electronic devices.