Those who live transparently understand the wisdom of "timely stop loss"

Life is like a game of cards. It's not scary to grab a bad hand, but what's scary is to keep playing even though you know you're going to lose. Those who live a relaxed and comfortable life are often not particularly lucky, but know how to shout 'cut' at the right time. Why do we always get deeper and deeper into our mistakes?

1. Sinking Cost Trap

The time, money, and emotions already invested are like invisible chains that hold us back. Just like watching a movie for half an hour and discovering it's a bad movie, most people still insist on watching it because 'everyone has come'.

2. Loss aversion psychology plays a role.

Psychology confirms that the pain of loss far outweighs the happiness gained. Giving up a relationship feels like cutting flesh; Quitting a job you don't like feels like taking a risk.

3. Stop loss needs to go against human nature.

Human instinct is to persist until the last moment, and stop loss needs to go against this instinct. It's like when the stock market crashes, only a few people can decisively sell.

Stop loss wisdom in two and three areas

1. Timely withdrawal in relationships

Don't think about "giving another chance" when you find that the other person frequently lies or is cold and violent. Toxic relationships are like swamps, struggling for longer and sinking deeper.

2. Career Stop Loss at Work

After three years of no growth in the same position, working every day feels like going to a grave. What is needed at this point is not patience, but the courage to update your resume.

3. Stop loss point for health management

Staying up late with a red light on the medical examination report is like stepping on the gas pedal even when the fuel tank is at its bottom. The body never lies.

3. How to cultivate stop loss thinking?

1. Setting a clear bottom line

is like setting a stop loss point for stocks, every decision in life must have a standard of "stopping here". For example, the three time rule in love: if you cheat more than three times, break up.

2. Regular self reflection

Set aside "break and leave" time every month to examine various aspects of life. Those people and things that make you anxious for a long time are worth reassessing.

3. Practice the Courage to Give Up

Start training with small things, such as leaving an ugly movie halfway through or not finishing a bad food. Giving up is not failure, but wisdom.

4. Rebirth Rule after Stop Loss

1. Allow yourself to be temporarily depressed

Ending any relationship or career requires a mourning period. But remember to set a time limit, like setting an alarm for sadness.

2. Change the perspective of thinking

from "I lost..." to "I avoided...". Leaving the wrong person is to make room for the right person; Giving up the wrong job is leaving room for opportunities.

3. Establish a new anchor point for life

Fill the gap with exercise, learning, and socializing. New habits will rebuild a stronger structure of life on the ruins. The most ironic thing about life is that new possibilities often emerge at the moment of letting go. Those seemingly difficult decisions, looking back, are all gifts of fate. Remember, timely stop loss is not about giving up, but about winning your entire life. When you learn to gracefully exit, life will open up more exciting new chapters for you.