This kind of marriage is more torturous than having no money: when you speak, he is indifferent

Have you ever had such an experience? Even though they are sitting on the same sofa, it feels like they are separated by a sea. You enthusiastically shared today's interesting stories, and the other person stared at their phone with two "hmm" sounds; You seriously discussed the issue of your child's education, and he turned around and asked, 'What do you have for dinner tonight?'. The 'ineffective communication' in this marriage is like a blunt knife cutting flesh, consuming emotions more than financial difficulties.

1. Why does your partner treat you as a "background sound"?

1. Attention is excessively distracted.

Contemporary people check their phones every 4 minutes on average, and their brains are in a multitasking state for a long time. When a partner speaks, they may be responding to work messages, watching short videos, or playing games at the same time, and this fragmented attention can lead to conditioned perfunctory responses.

2. Emotional connection discontinuity

Long term neglect of deep communication can lead to "emotional deafness", just like muscles that are not used for a long time will atrophy. When one party continues to avoid communication with "casually" or "you decide", the other party's desire to express will gradually shut down, forming a vicious cycle.

2. Three hidden harms of being treated like "wind in the ear"

1. Corrosion of self-worth

Continued lack of response can lead to the perception that "I am not important", which may extend to other fields such as work and social interaction. A study has shown that people who have been neglected by their partners for a long time are 2.3 times more likely to suffer from anxiety disorders than the general population.

2. Accumulated Contradiction Explosion

The most dangerous relationship is when the surface is calm, just like a pressure cooker without an exhaust valve. The grievances that have not been heard will not disappear, and will eventually erupt violently through some small matter. The common sentence structure is' you never... '.

3. Children will replicate communication patterns

Children will unconsciously imitate their parents' interactive ways during their growth. Children who have witnessed "one-way communication" for a long time either become overly pleasing or inherit the same indifferent attitude, which affects their future interpersonal relationships.

3. Practical methods to make conversations flow again

1. Create exclusive conversation time

Set a 15 minute "no interference time" every day and turn off all electronic devices. You can start with a light topic, such as "What made you happy today", to avoid discussing heavy topics from the beginning.

2. Activate listening with body language

Gently grasp the other person's hand while speaking, and this tactile stimulation can increase attention concentration by 30%. If you notice that the other person is distracted, you can use "Where did you hear what I just said" as a gentle reminder.

3. Establish feedback mechanism

After important communication, a simple review can be agreed upon, such as "Which of the three points I just mentioned do you think is the most feasible. This can both test the level of understanding and make the other party accustomed to participating in the conversation. The scariest thing about marriage is not arguing, but losing the desire to argue. In those words that are treated as a breeze in the ear, there is the most precious trust and expectation hidden. Starting from putting down your phone at dinner tonight, let the voice of love be heard again.