The truth about married women being approached: it's not about appearance, that's the key

The girl who is always asked for WeChat on the subway actually has a very ordinary appearance; The most popular colleague in the company may not necessarily be the one with the highest appearance. Have you noticed that some people seem to have a built-in magnetic field that attracts attention wherever they go? This attraction often hides deeper than the skin.

1. The energy field is perceived earlier than the facial features

1. Silent broadcasting of micro expressions

The natural upward curve of the corners of the mouth has 30% more affinity than a deliberate smile, and a slight dilation of the pupils makes the gaze softer. The 'emotional microclimate' formed by the combination of these subtle expressions will be subconsciously received by others within 0.3 seconds.

2. The Secret of Body Language

A relaxed shoulder curve is more likely to trigger a sense of closeness than a right angled shoulder, and the natural opening angle of the hand directly affects the credibility score. When body language resonates harmoniously with micro expressions, it releases a strong 'approachable signal'.

3. Sound thermometer

A speech rate of 110-150 words per minute is most likely to trigger a desire to listen, and a 5% decrease in tone can increase a sense of stability. A study has found that voices with slight air tones are judged to be more sincere, which is an unexpected bonus brought by vocal cord relaxation.

2. Cognitive framework determines the direction of interaction

1. Projection effect of self positioning

When the brain defaults to "I deserve friendly treatment", facial muscles will naturally adjust to the maximum Good condition. This positive self suggestion can change micro expression muscle memory and form a virtuous cycle.

2. The Mystery of Attention Allocation

People who focus 80% of their attention on environmental perception rather than self-monitoring often exhibit more vivid facial expressions. Excessive focus on 'how I look' can actually create a sense of rigidity.

3. Cognitive Resource Management

The brain processes other people's expressions 0.07 seconds faster than processing its own, which means that in a relaxed state, we can more accurately capture and respond to other people's social signals.

3. Energy flow creates attraction

1. Magic of emotional synchronization

When the difference in breathing rate between two people is less than 3 times per minute, a wonderful resonance effect will be produced. This synchronization of physiological rhythms can bring people closer together than any language.

2. The balance point of energy exchange

The ratio of 55% energy output+45% energy reception in a conversation is the most comfortable. Always maintaining a listener posture or excessive output can disrupt this delicate balance.

3. Control of Interactive Rhythm

Insert an open-ended question every 90 seconds or so to maintain dialogue flow and avoid a sense of interrogation. This breathing rhythm of communication can make people unconsciously want to prolong interaction.

Before going out next time, why not practice the expression management of "smiling at the corner of the eye before the corner of the mouth" in front of the mirror, observe the natural swing of the arm when walking, and record your most relaxed speaking speed. The true attraction is never a hunting tool, but the light that naturally emanates when you get along well with yourself.