The smartest way of life for humans is to actively sever ties with three types of people, regardless of who they are

Life is like mobile phone memory, regular cleaning is necessary to run smoothly. The social relationships that consume your energy are like apps that steal traffic in the background, which may not show any abnormalities on the surface, but actually quietly slow down your life speed.

1. The first type of person who must sever ties: emotional vampires

1. Identification features: you are exhausted after every meeting

These people absorb energy from others like a black hole, and their complaints and anxiety can cause abnormal increases in your cortisol levels. Neuroscience research shows that after spending 30 minutes with individuals with negative emotions, the brain produces physiological responses similar to mild stress.

2. Warning signal: Conversations always revolve around them

When 90% of your chat records are each other's life dramas, and your current situation is never asked, this is no longer friendship but emotional exploitation.

3. Stop loss strategy: Set up an "emotional isolation zone"

to gradually reduce the frequency of contact and change face-to-face communication to text communication. psychological experiments have shown that written communication can filter out 83% of negative emotional contagion.

2. The second type of person who must sever ties: growth obstacles

1. Typical behavior: mocking your changes

When you start exercising, they say "stop tinkering", and when you learn new skills, they joke about "pretending to be ambitious". These types of people packaging their negation with jokes are actually afraid of being seen as stagnant by your progress.

2. Hidden hazards: Warm water boiling frog effect

Harvard tracking research found that people who have close relationships with those who are content with the status quo for a long time are 37% less likely to achieve their life goals. Their 'stable philosophy' will erode your ambition like a chronic poison.

3. Cutting method: Create physical distance

Actively join new social circles and use spatial isolation to promote psychological isolation. The human brain has an instinct to automatically adapt to the environment, and new interpersonal stimuli can accelerate the fading of old relationships.

The third type of person who must sever ties: moral blackmail expert [SEP]. Neuroscience shows that decisions made under coercion activate the pain center of the brain, and even surface compromises can bury resentment.

2. Deep damage: Blurring your sense of boundaries

Every concession will lower your psychological defense line, ultimately becoming the other party's "sticky note personality" that can be used at will. Clinical data shows that the proportion of such victims experiencing anxiety symptoms is 2.4 times higher than that of the general population.

3. The way to break: Practice being "gentle yet firm"

Replace compromise with "I understand, but this time it won't work". After repeating the exercise 21 times, the brain will form new neural pathways, completely changing the pleasing response pattern. Social distancing is not indifference, but advanced management of life energy. The relationships that require careful maintenance are not worth preserving in themselves. When you start cleaning up your interpersonal relationship cache, you will find that truly precious relationships never need to be deliberately maintained. Remember: in the adult world, screening is always more important than transformation.