The more cowardly a man is, the more he loves you? These few words betrayed his heart

I heard that "cowardly boyfriends" are popular now? In my social circle, I can always see girls boasting about their boyfriend who would act spoiled and admit his cowardice after losing games and arguing. But did you know that behind some seemingly weak actions, there are sincere words that even he himself may not have noticed.

1. The psychological code behind actively admitting one's mistake

1. "My mistake" does not mean making a real mistake

When a boy says this sentence first, 80% of the time he doesn't understand the problem at all. This kind of reflexive apology actually regards maintaining relationships as more important than arguing about right or wrong. Just like programmers who encounter system crashes and restart first, they choose the most efficient "emotional repair shortcut key".

2. Admitting guilt is an advanced emotional management skill.

can quickly switch from an argumentative state to an apology mode, indicating that his prefrontal cortex is well developed. This ability is equivalent to a 5G network in the emotional world, which can instantly receive your emotional signals and provide feedback, reducing 90% of the anger index compared to those "steel straight men" who persevere to the end.

2. Hidden love words in showing weakness

1. The subtext of "you decide"

When he hands over the dinner choice to you, it's not that he's indecisive, but rather a trust exercise. This is equivalent to completely entrusting his taste and aesthetics to you, which requires more courage than handing over his salary card - after all, the price of stepping on a thunderous restaurant is a real stomach protest.

2. Be careful with the machine that asks for help.

That guy who doesn't even know how to adjust the phone filter may be able to handle complex project reports at work. This selective 'functional degradation', like a cat intentionally knocking over a water bottle to seek attention, is one of the few allowed ways for adult males to act coquettishly.

Three signals to distinguish true and false cowardice

1. Look at the compensation mechanism after the fact

People who truly admit cowardice will silently improve, such as saying during an argument that staying up late is not good, and for the next half month, your phone will receive a sleep reminder set by him every night at 10 o'clock. And perfunctory apology is like an expired coupon, with no practical value except for the comfort it felt at the time.

2. Observe body language

Sincere yielding will be accompanied by physical relaxation, such as suddenly handing you a glass of water during an argument. If it was a forced confession of cowardice, his micro expression would be even more abstract than Picasso's paintings, with a smile at the corners of his mouth but still angry eyebrows.

3. Test the level of responsibility

Intentionally causing a small trouble (such as pretending to lose movie tickets), see if his first reaction is to shift the blame or solve it. True love type cowardly contestants will activate emergency plans and come up with new viewing plans within five minutes. The truly valuable "cowardice" is knowing how to proactively soften on matters unrelated to principles, but always having a sense of responsibility when you need support. Just like the power-saving mode in mobile phones, which may seem to slow down the running speed, it is actually designed to provide long-lasting battery life during critical moments. Next time you meet someone who is willing to admit to you, why not send them a 'read receipt'.