The less words spoken in a relationship, the happier it is? Someone told you about the magic of silence

Have you ever noticed that those old couples who have been together for many years can often understand each other's meaning with just a glance? On the contrary, young couples in the honeymoon period often say 'I love you' on their lips. This makes people wonder: in relationships, the less one says, the happier they are?

1. Why talking less is actually happier

1. Reduce ineffective communication

Many couples' arguments are often triggered by trivial thoughts. For example, "Why did you litter your socks again?" and "How many times have you said to put things back in their original place after use. These seemingly caring nags are actually consuming each other's emotional accounts.

2. Leave space for each other

psychological research has found that moderate silence can put the brain into a relaxed state. When two people are quietly doing their own things, this kind of companionship is more comfortable than talking non-stop.

3. Avoid making mistakes with too much talk

The more you say, the easier it is to step into the other person's minefield. Sometimes an unintentional joke can trigger an unnecessary argument.

2. How to use the art of silence in emotions

1. Learn nonverbal communication

A hug is worth a thousand words. When the other person is feeling down, staying quietly by their side is more effective than saying a bunch of comforting words.

2. Cultivate mutual understanding

You can try to establish some secret codes with your partner that only you understand. For example, lightly touching your hand indicates "I love you", blinking your eyes twice indicates "I understand you".

3. Control expression desire

Before attempting to deliver a lengthy speech, take three deep breaths. Ask yourself: Do I have to say these words? Will speaking out make the relationship better or worse?

3. When to speak and when to remain silent

1. When it comes to principle issues or major decisions, it is important to clearly express one's position. For example, major life events such as buying a house, getting married, and having children.

2. When the other party needs to confide in you [SEP], learn to be a good listener when your partner initiates a conversation with you. Don't rush to give advice, let the other person finish speaking first.

3. When emotionally excited [SEP], it is easiest to speak recklessly when angry. The best thing to do at this point is to temporarily leave the scene and wait until you calm down before communicating. Emotions are like a cup of good tea, requiring appropriate soaking time to release its aroma. Learn to remain silent at appropriate times, leaving room for each other to breathe, so that the relationship can go further. Starting today, try to say fewer words and express love through more actions.