The difference between low self-esteem and high self-esteem

The core difference between low self-esteem and high self-esteem lies in the individual's cognitive and behavioral patterns of self-worth, mainly manifested in three dimensions: self-evaluation stability, interpersonal interaction style, and stress resistance.

1. Self evaluation

Individuals with low self-esteem often have their self-awareness shaken by external evaluations, overly rely on others' recognition, and are prone to falling into a cycle of self doubt. Individuals with high self-esteem possess a stable sense of self-worth, are able to objectively view their strengths and weaknesses, and are less susceptible to negative evaluations affecting their core confidence. There is a significant difference in attribution methods between the two, with low self-esteem individuals tending to attribute failure to personal ability deficiencies.

2. Interpersonal relationships

Individuals with low self-esteem exhibit a tendency to please or avoid social interactions, fear revealing their true selves, and are exceptionally sensitive to rejection signals. High self-esteem individuals can establish equal and healthy relationship boundaries, neither excessively demanding nor blindly giving, and tend to use constructive communication methods in conflicts.

3. Coping with Challenges

Low self-esteem individuals tend to exhibit avoidance behavior when faced with difficulties, turning setbacks into disasters and having a longer recovery period. High self-esteem individuals view challenges as opportunities for growth and are able to quickly adjust their strategies after failure, which is related to the processing mechanism of negative information in the prefrontal cortex of the brain.

4. Emotional expression

Low self-esteem individuals suppress their true needs under normal pressure, express dissatisfaction in a negative way, and form a passive aggressive pattern. High self-esteem individuals are able to clearly express emotional boundaries and have strong emotional regulation abilities, which is closely related to whether they receive sufficient emotional responses during childhood.

5. Goal Setting

Individuals with low self-esteem either set unrealistic high standards or avoid goal setting, leading to a fear of achievement. High self-esteem individuals tend to break down feasible goals and focus on progress rather than perfection, and this difference is reflected in the sensitivity of the dopamine reward system in neural mechanisms. Improving self-esteem requires a combination of cognitive behavioral training and emotional experience adjustment. It is recommended to reconstruct self-awareness by recording successful diaries, practice self affirmation in a safe environment, and gradually establish a growth mindset. Regular exercise can enhance neural plasticity, and group counseling can provide corrective emotional experiences. However, for low self-esteem that persists for more than six months, it is recommended to seek professional psychological intervention.

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