Taboo in outdoor interactions: Talking about these topics is equivalent to self destructive emotions!

When I swiped my mobile phone in the middle of the night, I suddenly saw 99+voice bombings sent by my friends. When I clicked, it was all roast about the painful experience of talking with my boyfriend's family and stepping on thunder. It turns out that during a meal, she directly made the expectant mother-in-law blush by talking about her ex partner, which was comparable to a large-scale social death scene. In fact, getting along with your partner and family is like playing a minesweeper game. Some topics may seem harmless, but they can actually be extremely dangerous.

1. The topic of the ex is high voltage lines

1. Everything related to the ex

When the other person's family asks about their emotional experiences, do not honestly open an emotional column. Even if questioned, one should learn to use the phrase 'it's all over' to casually pass by, and describing the details of love in detail is like jumping in a minefield. Remember that what the other person really wants to hear is your serious attitude towards the current position.

2. Comparative statement

The sentence structure of "Your son is much more considerate than his ex" sounds like a compliment but actually has hidden dangers. Elders will subconsciously worry about whether you are using the ex standard to measure the current one, which can easily trigger defensive psychology.

2. Economic sensitive areas

1. Income and deposit details

When asked about salary, there is no need to take out a payslip for on-site audit, and a vague response of "enough to run a small family" is sufficient. Specific numbers can easily trigger unnecessary comparisons or concerns, as there are intergenerational differences in consumer attitudes among families.

2. Property Distribution Plan

Discussing how to spend the dowry and whose name to write on the property certificate before getting married is like lighting a firecracker fuse in advance. Sensitive topics involving money require a natural timing, and forced discussion will only create a sense of gunpowder.

3. Family Contradiction Taboos

1. Complaining about your parents

complaining that the original family may be misunderstood as not being grateful, and the other party will worry about how you treat the new family in the future. Replacing 'parents are too strict' with 'they are more protective of me' can better convey a positive message.

2. Comment on the other party's family conflicts

Even if you see arguments between your partner and family, you should remain neutral. Taking sides rashly can easily lead to internal and external conflicts. You can use the phrase 'every family has their own way of adjusting' to resolve awkward situations, and avoid being a referee or passing the microphone.

4. Future Planning Minefield

1. Childbirth Schedule

Specific plans such as "planning not to have children within three years" may meet the expectations of elders. When discussing fertility views, leave room for flexibility and emphasize that "being prepared" is more secure than setting a deadline.

2. Controversy over Settlement Cities

Topics such as differences in North South living and urban-rural choices require extra caution, and absolute expressions should be replaced with "comprehensive consideration of development opportunities". Remember that your core goal is to demonstrate mature and rational decision-making abilities. In fact, all communication taboos point to the same principle: focus on constructive topics. Talk more about common hobbies, interesting life stories, and food travel, these safety signs can keep the atmosphere of getting along warm. After all, good family relationships are never established by rules and regulations, but by finding mutually comfortable ways of expression.