Smart women understand: Soul questioning before establishing a relationship, not even one is missing

Imagine you're sitting on the sofa with a cup of hot cocoa and scrolling through your phone when you suddenly come across explosive chat records in your best friend group - someone just broke up with their boyfriend of three months because he insisted on keeping his pet lizard in the bedroom. This kind of plot is much more exciting than binge watching, after all, real life doesn't have a fast forward button. Why do people always exclaim 'So you're this kind of person' after confirming their relationship? Perhaps what is missing is the 'Soul Interrogation Checklist' hidden in the smart girl's memo.

1. Microscopic observation of lifestyle habits

1. Whether the biological clock is in parallel time and space

The relationship between night owls and morning type people is like a cross-border relationship with time difference. Try to schedule breakfast at 7am and observe whether the other person is in a lively mood for coffee or poking the fried egg into an abstract painting with dark circles under their eyes. Long term differences in sleep patterns may turn dating into a cycle of 'I'm saying good morning, you're saying good night'.

2. The invisible balance of consumption view

It is not necessary to directly ask about the balance of the salary card, but you can chat about "how to spend if there is a sudden bonus". Some people plan to save money to watch the aurora, while others immediately want to switch to the best New game console. There is no right or wrong, but a consumption concept with a large gap can make shared life like a puzzle that never matches.

2. X-ray Scanning of Value System

1. Intersection of Future Blueprint

The seemingly romantic "take one step at a time" may be a minefield. Instead of directly asking about marriage and childbirth plans, the answer may present a completely different picture of lying in a baby goods store or hiking on a snowy mountain.

2. A social distance measuring instrument

observes how TA describes exes and heterosexuals Sexual friends, excessively belittling or kissing Midou may have a red light on. Trying to discuss the boundary between having a meal alone with a partner and having a different sex, some people think it's normal socializing, while others think it needs to be reported in advance.

3. Stress Test for Emotional Management

1. Realistic Practice of Conflict Mode

Intentionally creating a small accident during a date, such as buying the wrong movie ticket for the wrong show. Pay attention to whether the other party's first reaction is to solve the problem or to complain and blame, which often reflects their true state during future arguments.

2. Prototype exposure under pressure

Inviting TA to play a competitive game that requires teamwork, the reaction when losing is more worth observing than when winning. The person who throws the keyboard and scolds their teammate is likely to have the same style when facing life setbacks.

4. Archaeological excavation of family relationships

1. Probability of replicating parental interaction patterns

Instead of directly asking "Are your parents in a good relationship?", change it to "Why do your parents most often argue about things. Native families are like pre installed software, and many people unconsciously repeat their parents' marriage patterns.

2. A thermometer for family interaction

Spring The topic of the festival is an excellent observation window. Listen to TA's description of the details of the family gathering: whether it's a lively red envelope grab or an awkward household registration check. dear. A closely knit family may mean dealing with more relatives' care in the future. The essence of this questionnaire is not to get a perfect score, but to discover the differences that make your pupils tremble. What really matters is not whether the other party meets the standard answer, but whether you have the tacit understanding to turn question marks into ellipses when differences arise. Next date, why not bring the first three questions, which may test the soul's adaptability more than a Michelin dinner.