Not tired of material possessions, not hurt by desires: a broad mind makes mental health ubiquitous

Modern people are often overwhelmed by various desires and material pursuits, but few realize that true mental health begins with learning not to. This is not a passive abandonment, but a higher level of life wisdom. Why are we always "kidnapped" by desire?

1. The dopamine trap

The reward mechanism of the brain keeps us chasing new stimuli, but each time we satisfy them, a higher threshold is generated. That's why not long after buying a new bag, I will want to update the style.

2. The whirlpool of social comparison

Social media amplifies the mentality of "I want to have what others have". Research has found that frequent scrolling through social media can increase material desires by 37%.

3. Emotional compensation psychology

Many people use shopping and food to fill emotional gaps, forming a vicious cycle of "buying when unhappy".

2. The Three Benefits of Learning "Don't"

1. Reducing Decision Fatigue

Reducing unnecessary choices can save brain energy. Just like Steve Jobs always wore a black turtleneck and focused his energy on important decisions.

2. Improving concentration

When the mind is not distracted by external objects, it can enter a state of deep thinking. Many innovations are born after the 'separation'.

3. Enhancing Happiness

Harvard research shows that the duration of happiness brought by experiential consumption is three times that of material consumption.

3. Practice the Art of "Don't" Living

1. Regularly Clean Items

Conduct a wardrobe "slimming" once every quarter, and decisively deal with clothes that have not been worn for more than a year. Keep items that you truly need and love.

2. Set a cooling off period for consumption

When encountering something you want to buy, put it in your shopping cart for three days first, and most impulsive consumption desires will automatically disappear.

3. Cultivate Alternative Happiness

Replace material gains with internal satisfaction such as reading and exercise, and establish healthier sources of happiness.

4. Sublimation from "don't" to "want"

1. Self awareness

Spend 5 minutes every day recording consumption impulses and analyzing the real needs behind them.

2. To live a quality life [SEP], reduce quantity and improve quality. A set of exquisite tableware can bring more happiness than ten sets of cheap products.

3. Keep a space for solitude and leave room for breathing in your heart. Life is like a room, if it's too full, it loses its freedom of movement. Try to subtract desires, and you will find that true abundance is not about having how much, but about needing very little. Starting today, practice saying 'no' to things you don't need, and your mind will become lighter and stronger as a result.