No matter how good the relationship is, remember: loving oneself is the beginning of lifelong romance

Have you ever had such an experience? Even though I am so tired that my eyelids are fighting, I am still helping my best friend revise her PPT; Although I wanted to eat hotpot myself, I was told by a colleague that; Daily Health "; Silently swallowing back saliva; I want to stay at home and watch TV shows on weekends, but I have the courage to attend parties that I don't even want to go to. We are always playing the role of 24-hour online; Post it notes for girls; But I forgot to ask myself: Is the person who needs to be taken care of the most sitting in the corner?

1. Why do we always put others first?

1. Habitual thinking of pleasing personality.

Being praised since childhood; Be sensible "; Children are prone to developing a conditioned reflex pattern of giving. The brain will; Satisfying Others' Expectations; And "; Gain a sense of security; Draw an equal sign, just like someone who always opens a hotspot on their phone, only realizing something is wrong when their data is exhausted.

2. The Hidden Shackles of Social Discipline [SEP]; A good wife should take on the household chores; " Excellent employees must be on call; These invisible rules make people unconsciously compress their own space. Research has found that people who suppress their real needs for a long time have cortisol levels that are 23% higher than those of the general population, which is equivalent to their body being in a constant state; State of readiness;.

2. Physical protest signals of excessive effort

1. Emotional red warning

Suddenly becoming angry and disliking others over trivial matters may be a sign of emotional account overdraft. Just like a hot phone is an overload warning, these anonymous fires are actually the brain shouting '; It's time to charge;.

2. The mysterious code of the body

Repeated oral ulcers, persistent migraines, and inexplicable skin allergies may all be protests from the body. Experiments have shown that people who suppress their emotions for a long time have significantly lower levels of immunoglobulin A, which is equivalent to giving the virus a VIP pass.

3. Turning Self Love into an Operational Guide

1. Setting Emotional Boundaries

Try "; Sandwich communication Method; Firstly, confirm the other party's needs, then clarify your own boundaries, and finally provide alternative solutions. For example; I know you're in a hurry to come up with a plan, but I can't spare myself today. Can I send it to you as soon as possible tomorrow morning? "

2. Create a sense of exclusive ceremony

Set aside 15 minutes every day; Sacred Time "; It can be listening to podcasts while soaking your feet, or reading a two page book on the subway. Neuroscience research shows that regular small pleasures can enhance the activity of the prefrontal cortex, equivalent to giving the brain a SPA.

3. Establish a self-care checklist

and prepare a "; First Aid Kit; List things that can make you happy quickly: paint nail polish, turn over old photos, eat dark chocolate When emotions hit the limit down, these are the best; Anti falling agents;. The person who always gives umbrellas to others should also have the right to stand under the eaves. Starting from today; i want. .." Join the daily dictionary and treat yourself like the most important customer. After all, even your phone knows that it needs to be charged below 20%, how can you wait until it's completely turned off before taking action?