Letting go is not about giving up, but a more advanced way of living

Life is like a clenched fist, the tighter you hold it, the more sand particles it loses. The obsession that keeps us tossing and turning often becomes a cage that traps us. In fact, true wisdom does not lie in persisting in something, but in knowing when to let go.

1. physiological basis for letting go of obsession

1. Self protective mechanism of the brain

Long term anxiety can cause sustained activity of the amygdala, leading to inhibition of prefrontal function. Timely release the rational thinking function that can restart the brain.

2. The dual nature of stress hormones

Cortisol enhances short-term adaptability, but long-term high levels can damage the hippocampus. Learning to let go is to press the pause button on the body.

3. Principle of Neuroplasticity

The neural pathways in the brain are strengthened through repeated thinking. Shifting focus can reshape thinking patterns, just like giving the brain a sense of detachment.

2. Three life burdens that need to be let go

1. The shackles of perfectionism

Allow oneself to deliver at 80% completion, which consumes 50% less energy than repeated revisions. Completion is more important than perfection.

2. The burden of excessive responsibility

Distinguishing between "my topic" and "someone else's topic" can reduce 70% of interpersonal relationship pressure. Not all problems require you to solve.

3. The trap of comparative psychology

focuses on one's own growth curve rather than others' progress bars. psychological research shows that stopping can increase subjective well-being by 33%.

3. Practical methodology of letting go

1. Physical isolation method

removes items that cause anxiety from the line of sight, and the cleanliness of the environment is positively correlated with psychological ease.

2. Emotional Naming Exercise

Accurately stating "why am I anxious" can reduce emotional intensity by 25%.

3. Set a stop loss point

Determine in advance the "maximum number of attempts", and those with a bottom line are more likely to turn around decisively.

4. Advanced gains after letting go

1. Release of attention resources

When the brain no longer fixates on a certain problem, it releases the equivalent of 15% of its cognitive reserve.

2. Opportunity cost reduction

The time saved by ending the wrong direction is equivalent to obtaining new potential capital.

3. Enhancement of Self Efficacy

Every successful release is a positive reinforcement of decision-making ability.

Those seemingly letting go choices are actually freeing up more space for life to dress up beautifully. Just like when tidying up a room, we don't become poor because we discard old things, but because the space is more spacious and abundant. Subtracting from the soul may reveal that what was once held tightly was only the quicksand in the fingers that hindered seeing more scenery.