It is our ability to leave embarrassment to those who make you feel embarrassed and be able to handle others' words.

Have you ever encountered such a situation? Colleagues publicly mock your weight, relatives inquire about your salary, and friends joke about your embarrassing moments These suffocating social moments often make people wish they could find a hole to crawl in. But psychological research has found that people who can resolve awkward situations often have higher emotional intelligence and social skills. Why are we afraid of social awkwardness?

1. Primitive brain at work

The amygdala responsible for fear in the human brain recognizes social awkwardness as a threat to survival. That's why when we are mocked in public, we blush, our hearts race, and our minds go blank.

2. Excessive focus on self-image

Harvard University experiments show that people tend to overestimate the level of attention others give to themselves. In fact, that awkward moment may have been forgotten by others when they turned their heads.

3. Mistaken Attribution Habit

Attributing others' offenses to oneself for not being good enough can lead you into a vicious cycle of infinite self doubt.

Two and Four communication Techniques for Resolving Embarrassments

1. Mirror Rebound Method

When the other person says "You've gained weight again recently," you can respond with a smile, "It seems like your eyesight hasn't been good lately. Rebound with the same mocking tone, not losing grace but also defusing the attack.

2. Topic Shifting

When encountering a personal question that you don't want to answer, you can say, "Let's not talk about this for now, how's the project you mentioned last time?" Naturally transition to a topic that interests the other party.

3. Exaggerated Admitting Method

When someone points out a small mistake, you can say, "That's right, I'm the spokesperson for contemporary confusion bugs. Using humor to magnify flaws actually makes one appear confident and composed.

4. Reverse Empathy

When someone intentionally embarrasses you, ask with concern, "Have you been under too much pressure lately?" and shift the focus to the other person's state.

3. Cultivate strong psychological qualities

1. Establish an emotional buffer zone

Meditation for 10 minutes every day can enhance the prefrontal cortex's control over emotions. When encountering embarrassment, take a deep breath for 3 seconds before responding.

2. Cultivate a mindset of "it's none of my business"

Remember the three no's principle: not explaining, not proving, and not self proving. Your value does not need to be reflected through the recognition of others.

3. Prepare an emergency script library

Reserve 20 universal response scripts in advance, such as neutral expressions like "interesting viewpoints" and "this angle is very special".

4. What situations require a frontal counterattack?

1. When it comes to the bottom line of principles,

must clearly distinguish between obviously insulting remarks: "This joke is not funny at all." [SEP]. Remember, it's not someone else's right to embarrass you, but the result you allow. Starting today, practice returning uncomfortable feelings to those who create them, and you will find that the world suddenly becomes much friendlier. True maturity is not enduring offense, but learning to elegantly guard one's own boundaries.