Introverted women's social difficulties: These three personality traits make your friends scarce

Although there are thousands of words in my heart, when I speak, there is only one sentence left: 'It's good'; I always hide in the corner and use my phone during gatherings, but I really envy those who talk and laugh. The social dilemma of introverted women is like a silent tug of war, thirsty Wanting to connect but also afraid of taking the initiative, eventually becoming a "aloof and unapproachable" presence in the eyes of others.

1. Social burden caused by excessive sensitivity [SEP]. This sensitive radar continues to operate at high intensity in social interactions, causing every communication to be like a bomb disposal.

2. Afraid of negative reviews

Posting on social media requires editing for half an hour, and finally set it to only be visible to oneself. Worried that taking the initiative to talk would be seen as impolite, I simply kept silent, which resulted in being labeled as "unsociable".

3. perfectionism tendency

Always feels that they are not adequately prepared and cannot wait for the "most suitable time", and social opportunities slip away in repeated struggles. In fact, there is no such thing as a 100% perfect social performance.

2. Passive waiting social mode

1. Habitual avoidance of initiative

Waiting for others to join WeChat, waiting to be pulled into group chats, waiting to be invited to gatherings. Passive socialization is like waiting for a rabbit by the tree, missing out on a lot of opportunities to build relationships.

2. Over reliance on comfort zone

Only engage in deep interactions with a fixed two or three people and maintain a safe distance from new acquaintances. The comfort zone is like a constantly shrinking bubble, and in the end, even colleagues gathering together becomes a source of stress.

3. Underestimating one's own attractiveness

Always feeling like they have "nothing to share", but in fact, delicate observation and deep thinking abilities are scarce social currencies. Many extroverts are actually thirsty Hope for this trait.

3. Consumption cycle of improper energy management

1. Incorrect estimation of social consumption

Imagining half an hour of idle talk as a marathon can lead to psychological fatigue in advance. In fact, the pleasure brought by moderate socializing can sometimes replenish energy more than being alone.

2. Improper arrangement during the recovery period

Completely disappearing for two weeks after attending a party, this "social shock therapy" actually reinforces the discomfort. Intermittent mild social exercises are more suitable for introverts.

3. Neglecting social quality screening

In situations where energy is limited, one should learn to reject consumptive social interactions while also leaving a pathway for nurturing relationships. High quality socializing can recharge each other.

Personality traits are not social shackles, the depth, focus, and empathy of introverts themselves are precious gifts. Try breaking down "making friends" into small goals of "communicating for an extra five minutes each time", and patiently manage relationships like cultivating plants. A truly suitable friendship never requires forcing oneself to become someone else.