I don't want to do it. How can I put it tactfully

When you don't want to do something, you can politely refuse by adjusting your expression, providing alternative solutions, or explaining objective limitations. The key is to maintain a sincere attitude and avoid direct denial or conflict. The core of tactful refusal is to reduce the sense of harm to others while clearly conveying one's own position. Using non adversarial language is a basic strategy, such as changing from 'I don't want to go' to 'I have a tight schedule recently' or 'I don't like' to 'this direction', which may not be suitable for me. By weakening subjective color and attributing rejection to objective conditions, it can effectively reduce the other party's resistance. Alternative solutions are often easier to accept, such as recommending a more suitable candidate or coordinating a time in advance for the next event, even though they may not be able to attend. Explaining specific limitations can also enhance persuasiveness, such as the need to focus on a particular project for current work priorities, or the need to adjust rest periods based on physical condition. Special situations require a more cautious approach. When faced with tasks assigned by superiors, it is advisable to first affirm the value of the task before explaining the execution difficulties, such as the importance of this project to the team, but the current manpower allocation may need to be reassessed. In intimate relationships, it is important to express emotional connections more. For example, I care about your feelings, but this time I need to deal with my own emotional issues first. Cultural differences also need to be noted. Collectivist culture emphasizes the influence on the group, while individualistic culture focuses more on the rational statement of self needs. Regardless of the method, maintaining eye contact and appropriate body language can enhance communication effectiveness.

You can prepare some general scripts in advance for daily use, but adjust the details according to specific objects and scenes. Pay appropriate attention to the other party's emotional reactions after rejection, and engage in secondary communication if necessary. In the long run, establishing a sincere and reliable personal image is more important than simply pursuing rejection skills, making others understand that your rejection is not arbitrary. Regularly review your own tolerance range and avoid frequent use of euphemisms to refuse, which can lead to energy exhaustion.