How to make children optimistic? Firstly, we need to make them feel loved and accepted

When 5-year-old Lele fell to the ground, his mother's first reaction determined whether he would cry for comfort in the future or continue running by patting the soil. The latest data from the Children's Psychology Laboratory reveals that optimism is not a natural personality trait, but rather an ability that can be 'implanted' in the brain.

1. A sense of security is the soil of optimism

1. Hugging is 100 times more effective than preaching

When a child is frustrated, hugging can stimulate the secretion of oxytocin. This' love hormone 'can directly reduce stress levels and lay the foundation for an optimistic mindset.

2. The mistake was to replace "Why spilled milk again" with "We found a new game to wipe the table" in the Learning Medal. Positive interpretation errors can activate the brain's reward circuit and cultivate growth mindset.

3. Daily ritual sense is very important

Fixed bedtime chat time and weekly family game day. Regular activities can enhance children's sense of control over life, which is a core element of optimism.

2. 3 Brain Science communication Techniques

1. Replace "forever" with "temporary"

"I won't tie my shoelaces now" is more effective in protecting the development of the prefrontal cortex than "I'll never learn". Negative labels can change the neural connections in the brain.

2. Concrete Emotion Management

Teach children to draw anger as a red balloon and happiness as a yellow sun. Visualizing abstract emotions can enhance the regulatory ability of the amygdala.

3. Story therapy is the most effective.

Through picture books such as "Little Bear Chases the Rainbow", children can understand that setbacks are temporary. The impact of narrative therapy on children's brains is three times greater than that of simple preaching.

3. Beware of these optimistic killers

1. Overprotect

Parents who do shoelace tying on behalf of their children, inadvertently sending a signal of "you can't do it". The brain needs appropriate challenges to establish a confidence circuit.

2. Negative Filter

Parents who always say "I will definitely fail the exam" are installing pessimistic programs for their children. Mirror neurons faithfully replicate thought patterns.

3. Emotional Transfer

Parents with high work pressure are prone to transmitting anxiety to their children. Stress hormones can inhibit the development of the hippocampus and affect emotional regulation ability. Optimistic children are not without tears, but believe that there is sunshine behind dark clouds. From today on, turn 'it's okay, do it again' into a family catchphrase. Remember, every warm embrace is installing anti depressant "antivirus software" for their brain, which is the best growth vaccine for children.