From anxiety to calmness: a good life is all "endured"

Modern people seem to be racing against time, striving for success before the age of 30, buying a house or car before the age of 35, and achieving financial freedom before the age of 40. This anxiety, carried by the social clock, has plunged many people into a vortex of self doubt. In fact, behind those seemingly disconnected lives, there is an unknown wisdom of perseverance. Why does a good life require "perseverance"?

1. The inevitable process from quantitative change to qualitative change

Bamboo can only grow 3 centimeters in 4 years, but from the 5th year onwards, it can grow 30 centimeters per day. All explosive growth cannot be separated from the silent accumulation in the early stage.

2. The brain needs an adaptation period

Neuroscience research shows that mastering new skills requires at least 20 hours of deliberate practice. That's why many people tend to give up halfway when learning new things.

3. Cultivation of Emotional Regulation Ability

The ability to handle complex interpersonal relationships and respond to unexpected situations requires sufficient "practical exercises" to be able to handle them with ease.

2. The Three Key Stages of "Enduring" Value

1. The Hibernation of Confusion

The most important thing in this stage is to maintain an open mind and absorb various knowledge like a sponge. Many successful people look back on their early experiences and mention this seemingly 'wasted' time.

2. Persistence during bottleneck periods

When progress stagnates, adjusting methods is more important than blindly striving. Recording daily small progress can help maintain confidence.

3. Restraint during the breakthrough period

It is easiest to slack off when there is little achievement, and it is even more important to remain clear headed at this time. Regular review can avoid falling into a 'false prosperity'.

3. Scientific methods for "enduring" life

1. Establishing a growth mindset

Replacing "I'm not good at it" with "I'm still learning" can significantly improve stress resistance.

2. Set reasonable milestones

Break down big goals into quarterly, monthly, and weekly plans, and the achievement of each small goal is the driving force for continued progress.

3. Developing a support system

Finding like-minded partners and encouraging each other can help people go further. Walking alone is fast, walking together is far.

4. Misunderstood "enduring"

1. Enduring is not passive waiting

There is a fundamental difference between actively seeking opportunities and passively passing time. The former is strategy, while the latter is consumption.

2. Enduring pain does not mean enduring it.

During the process, one should learn to adjust the rhythm, and if necessary, pressing the pause button can actually go further.

3. Have a clear direction to endure

Perseverance without goals is futile, and it is important to regularly review whether the goals are worth continuing. There is no wasted path in life, every step counts. Those seemingly slow rhythms may be accumulating energy for future leaps. Instead of anxiety, it's better to focus on the life you truly want. Remember, the best maturity is not rushing to the finish line, but learning to enjoy the scenery along the way.