Encounter such a woman, run away quickly, don't hesitate

I came across a highly liked comment on the subway: 'Some people's existence is like expired yogurt, with no apparent problem on the surface, only to realize how bad it is after drinking it.'. Although this statement is heart wrenching, there are indeed some inherent "toxic" relationship patterns in life. Today we won't talk about chicken soup, but use a scientific perspective to break down the characteristics that easily consume the energy of others.

1. Three signals of emotional blackmail personality

1. Always comparing

Their conversations are always hinting at "what did someone else's boyfriend give" and "how considerate her best friend and husband are", showing affection The secret relationship becomes an arena. Psychological research has found that people who are in a long-term comparative relationship have cortisol levels that are 23% higher than the general population. The accumulation of this stress hormone may lead to insomnia and digestive problems.

2. Catastrophic expression

"If you leave me tomorrow, you'll jump off a building" "If you don't answer the phone, you won't love me", using extreme emotions to kidnap the other person. Emotional instability can keep people around them in a state of stress, which may lead to immune dysfunction in the long run.

3. Accounting based payment

Every cup of milk tea must be converted into "love points", and daily care becomes a moral hostage. A healthy relationship should be as natural as breathing, rather than a constantly settling emotional ledger.

2. Guidelines for Identifying Energy Black Hole Interactions

1. Topic Terminator

No matter what good news is shared, the other party can answer with a "but". The most New research shows that long-term exposure to negative feedback can lead to decreased activity in the prefrontal cortex of the brain, directly affecting judgment and creativity.

2. Emotional vampires

only appear when you need comfort, but disappear when you need support. This one-way relationship pattern will consume psychological energy like chronic blood loss.

3. The humanoid monitor

requires constant reporting of whereabouts and checking mobile phones as if it were routine. Excessive desire for control can trigger the body's fight and flight response, and sustained secretion of adrenaline may induce palpitations and muscle tension.

3. Health Boundary Rule for Self Protection

1. Set up an emotional anti addiction system

When feeling anxious or tired, call a stop in a timely manner. You can try the "five minute principle" - negative communication should not exceed five minutes each time, just like the automatic frequency reduction protection chip of a phone overheating.

2. Establish Relationship Checklist

Regularly ask yourself: Is it full of energy or exhausted after being with someone? Research has found that positive relationships can promote the secretion of oxytocin, a hormone that enhances immunity and wound healing ability.

3. Practicing nonviolent evacuation

does not require a melodramatic plot, gradually reducing the frequency of contact. The human body has gods The peculiar adaptation mechanism means that after ending a consumptive relationship, stress hormone levels will naturally decline within three months. Adult health management is not just about fitness meals and vitamins, but also requires regular screening for "toxins" in interpersonal relationships. Remember, the best way to maintain health is not to use goji berry thermos, but to stay away from those who cause you to lose oxygen invisibly in a timely manner. When a relationship continues to consume your life energy, leaving with dignity is the greatest kindness to oneself.