Don't worry! A child who is' lying flat in the nest and timid outside 'may be a' great thing '

A child at home is like a little tiger, but when they go out, they quickly turn into a little sheep? Don't be anxious for now, this kind of "cowardly behavior in the nest" may hide unexpected growth codes. Neuroscientists have found that this contrasting cuteness is precisely a manifestation of a child's sufficient sense of security.

1. Why does "two faced" behavior occur?

1. Family is a safe testing ground

Children who behave recklessly in familiar environments are testing their behavioral boundaries. Just like a puppy only flipping its belly in front of its owner, this kind of 'lying flat in the nest' is actually a sign of trust.

2. Being cautious towards the outside world is a protective mechanism.

Being alert to unfamiliar environments is a survival instinct preserved by evolution. Research has found that when children aged 3-6 face new environments, the amygdala of the brain becomes abnormally active.

3. Social skills are still being developed

Child psychologists point out that empathy skills in children before the age of 6 have only developed by 60%. It's not that I don't want to be friendly, it's that I can't express myself correctly yet.

Two and Three Misunderstood "Problem Behaviors"

1. Chatting at Home and Being Mute When Going Out

During the language explosion period, children ask an average of 76 questions per day, and these "language exercises" are accumulated to release to the people they trust the most.

2. Refusing to share toys

Children in the sensitive period of property rights have the same psychological mechanism of protecting toys and protecting food as primitive people. Harvard research has found that children who observe unfamiliar situations for 15 minutes before taking action often have stronger risk prediction abilities.

3. The Golden Rule of Clever Guidance

1. Set up a "venting corner" at home

Prepare tools such as soft cushions and screaming bottles to allow children to release their emotions in a safe way, and you will find that they are more calm when they go out.

2. Play role-playing games

to help children rehearse social scripts by simulating scenes such as supermarkets and parks. Repeating more than 5 times can reduce anxiety in unfamiliar scenes by 37%.

3. Being a "slow heat" demonstrator

Parents take the initiative to demonstrate how to slowly integrate into the new environment: "Mom also wants to get to know this aunt, let's watch her water the flowers together first, okay! The child is charging and storing energy in the safe base. Remember, there are no forever cowards, only growing warriors. Give them some time, you will be surprised by the social energy they unleash.